VENT! Best Friend got invited to my wedding, but got married and didn't even tell me!

So I did talk to her and she said her FH had told the friend the wrong date, she came out and told me that date it was going to be and said she was going to keep it to family only. However I still am debating if I believe it just because it wasn't like the friend only said something, but her sister did too. How did that many people get the wrong date? Especially her sister? She did tell me it would be family only so I don't see why she would lie it makes no sense, but it doesn't add up that her sister didn't know the real one. I don't think maybe I should end the whole friendship but maybe distance myself and see how we are at the baby shower.

I say this gently, but I'm reading a lot of expectations and entitlement from you (due to the cake). And distrust.

Maybe she is telling you the truth. Maybe she's feeling from you the expectations and entitlement, and is distancing herself from you because of it? I don't know. The sister surely could have gotten the date wrong. And, she was having family only, anyways. People that elope don't necessarily want a big production or want to spread the word.

Only you can decide if you value your friendship or not, and whether you will end the friendship due to your assumptions.

Best wishes to you.

I obviously would never make a decision off of an assumption. I didn't feel entitled due to the cake, it was more of a pressure then anything. I felt used by it. I am also not the type to be pushy in fact when I talked to her I didn't even say I was mad or upset I just said I had seen this on FB was it true? So I definitely don't think she is distancing anymore especially since she did answer. She said she has been feeling really sick so that is probably why. I would never however add any pressure by making her think that I thought I was entitled. In the end though I have decided to drop it and continue on, I may never know the truth or what happened with the sister but at the end of the day people make mistakes and I would rather not know. Thankyou for the advice!

Whatever the truth is, it still hurts to feel spurned by someone you are close to. I'm sorry! Good luck!

I found out one of my very good friends was pregnant on FB which I thought was absolutely ridiculous. I went to her baby shower and handmade her a blanket that she loved...Then I found out the baby was born on FB....Why can't people pick up the phone anymore and share their happy news? Ugh!

What you have to do is realize that this girl is NOT the type of friend you are. You seem like a very caring and giving person which is why she gravitates towards you but if she never reciprocates the good, you're just setting yourself up for more hurt.