veil problems- i don't want one, but everyone else does!

I don't want one either. I never really thought about it, until every veil I put on made me feel queezy. I say: Do what feels like you!

My mother insisted on me wearing a veil so I told her she had to pay for it! I am only wearing it for the ceremony once it's reception time I will wear my nice headpiece! Also, I am wearing my veil low, below the hair, so I won't be pulling it over my face or head to be all mosquito netted up! Haha!

It's going to be on YOUR head...meaning you should make the final decision about whether you wear one or not. With that being said, if you don't want one, don't wear one.

I didn't want to wear one either until the girl at the dress shop plopped one on my head! Now I'm doing like K&B, low and below the hair just for the ceremony.

It is your day and you should have it the way you want but maybe if you are feeling generous and want to compromise for your parent's and grandma's sakes, maybe you can wear it for the 20-30 mins during the ceremony?

If you don't want a veil, you don't want a veil. People can get legally married without the bride wearing a veil. Smile, say thank you for your advice, and move on.

I just always think that when people start pushing these types of decisions on you, it's the question of time when they will start making other wedding decisions too.

I say dont wear it if you dont want it. If it is really that big a deal to them. you can always wear one low on the back of your head and not do the blusher so that nothing is in your face. But if you dont want it than you dont want it.

I say the ones who are so enamored of veils should all wear veils--and leave your head covering (or lack thereof) up to you!

I know the feeling! I never wanted one, especially one of those 2 tier/blusher things. I felt like Bridal Barbie when I tried one on. My grandmother insisted, "always saw me wearing one" so we compromised. I got a simple one tier fingertip veil, wore it on the crown of my head, not over my face and took it off for the reception. It didnt bother me and I still made us all happy

Pic with, Pic without

I SAY, IT'S ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT IT!! YOUR THE ONE WEARING IT!! HAVE FUN AT YOUR WEDDING, BECAUSE IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU LITTLE LADY!! ;O)

Thanks for all the input! i like the veil for the ceremony idea and then take it off for the reception! i love that idea. never really thought of that! thank you!!

I do like the low veil idea too. i have a tattoo on my left shoulder blade that my mom and grandparents wish i had never gotten (lol), so i'm sure they would love for me to wear a veil during the ceremony when my back will mostly be to all the guests. so very good idea! thanks again ladies!

I am the same way ! I felt like I couldn't breath. But everyone insisted. So I will wear one for the ceremony and then it will come off. I brought it off ebay .99.

I didn't wear a veil, I did a flower clip.

My daughter did a veil. On her, it looked great, on me, the flower was perfect.

Do what YOU want to do!

You're welcome! It seems to be a good compromise for those who have family members that expect to see some sort of a veil and you dont want them! Plus you can do photos like this (we didnt do this one but plan on it at our TTD photo shoot in spring)

I always said I didn't want a veil too! And when the bridal consultant put one on me I immediately made her take it off. Then, when I picked out my headband, the guy showed me a few veils and he and my mom kind of changed my mind. I wore the headband and the veil for the ceremony and took off the veil for the reception. I think its a nice compromise... plus the veil does make you feel very "bridal".

Love it! 99 cents on ebay?! PERFECT! I found a clip to wear in my hair and bought it already, so if I do decide to wear the veil for the ceremony, I don't want to spend a lot of money on it.

Anne Marie- the consultant did the exact same thing to me! I told her to take it off and she was so insistant! The girls I brought with me could tell I was miserable with one on!

SO we'll see! thanks again!

Well OF COURSE the consultant said you "needed" one. That's more money in her pocket.

As far as all the family. You're the one that has to wear it and you're the one getting married. It's not going to ruin anything if you don't have one.

I was super against wearing a veil. Just didn't want one. But once I had on my dress and a consultant put a veil in my hair, I decided I really liked it. I'm definitely not wearing it over my face though. And I'm actually now using my sisters veil from when she got married, so I thought that was kind of cool. It can be my something borrowed.

That being said, if YOU don't want to wear one, then don't! It's not a necessary thing, and lots of brides don't wear veils. Just don't let other people pressure you into something that you don't want.

I say you do what you want. I'm not a veil person myself (I totally agree with the mosquito net thing...hehe) so if I do wear one, it will be a birdcage veil. Its small and it won't be bothering me the whole time I have it on. I bought one, but I am still undecided. In the end, its your day, and when it comes to what you wear, its all up to you. No one should have a say in your bridal attire besides you.