We posted on our wedding site that we’re asking all guests who are planning to attend are vaccinated. My nephew has lots of health problems and this is the primary reason we are doing it. Our ceremony is outside but the reception will be inside in a very large venue. The capacity of our venue is 600...
We posted on our wedding site that we’re asking all guests who are planning to attend are vaccinated. My nephew has lots of health problems and this is the primary reason we are doing it. Our ceremony is outside but the reception will be inside in a very large venue. The capacity of our venue is 600 and we will only be having about 80-120 people.
My uncle already lied and told me he was vaccinated and would be there. But he had actually told my mom days before that he wouldn’t be getting a vaccine. He won’t be attending now. But I’m hearing from more and more people that they aren’t planning to be vaccinated, a cousin and a few friends. I know everyone has the right to make their own choices. Was it rude of us to ask people to be vaccinated to attend? I didn’t disclose my nephew’s health condition on our website obviously but I feel like people are thinking we’re trying to push an agenda on them rather than us just trying to be safe... What do you guys think? Should I not read too much into it? I guess I just feel bad about people not doing it but I’m obviously going to stand by our boundary to protect our nephew’s health.
It's out of line for you to ask people to get an EUA vaccine to attend your wedding, your nephew's health status nonwithstanding. If the event is too high risk as is, you need to make the event smaller or give your nephew an option to not attend, rather than pushing a medical procedure on your guests. It's not fair and, for many guests, it would be against medical advice. I would probably no longer have a relationship with a couple who mandated vaccines for attendance.
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We aren’t asking them to get vaccinated. We are asking that only people who are vaccinated attend. No one is pushing anything on anyone
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I have a sibling with very serious health issues. We have almost lost her a couple times. We take her places even when it's a risk to her health because my parents want her to have a full life. We know the risk and are choosing to take it, and we don't expect anyone to change their lives to accommodate that. She had almost died from the flu, but we don't mandate the flu vaccine at events or expect others too. I don't think you and FH should take this on for your nephew's parents. They want him to attend even though they know the risk. He's their child. Leave it at that and don't mandate the vax on his behalf (and you said you wouldn't, but certainly never tell anyone you're doing it because of him)
A lot of people are getting vaccinated and a lot of people are not. Would you expect them to be fully vaccinated (2 weeks after last shot)? I think a negative test is just as good. I personally know someone who got exposed the day of her 2nd vaccine and tested positive 2 weeks later, although her symptoms were mild for a week she went about life thinking it was allergies. Some people have different reasons for not getting it. As long as you’re not hurt by them deciding not to come, you have to do what is best for you. Best of luck!
While I am half-vaxxed already, and am currently planning my activities around people who are vaxxed, demanding other people's medical status is ... problematic.
There are people who *can't* get the vaccine for medical reasons, but they may not have disclosed these medical reasons to you. Also, availability has only JUST opened up, and with the two most popular taking up to 6 weeks to fully work, people may not be able to get both doses in time.
My FH and I are planning on requiring vaccinations for the most part. While we are having a good amount of people, we are close enough with most everyone that we can just ask them personally. Asking for a negative test seems like a good compromise for ppl who are not vaccinated.
Unfortunately there is no wedding etiquette for a pandemic, so whatever you think is best for your loved ones is what has to be done, no matter how many people you piss off. Just be prepared for the fall out and try not to take it too personally
Chelsea G ·
This is a tricky situation and I truly feel for you. You can't lose all that money but you also can not put your nephew at risk. I just don't feel it's good etiquette to require it per say because there are so many factors that go into the decision of choosing whether or not to become vaccinated. Some people have valid reasons while sometimes others may not. There may be more people than you realize that can not be vaccinated due to health reasons or health concerns. At the end of the day you all will be wearing masks and social distancing - there is not much else you can do since you are not his parents. At that point require it to be a child-free event. Even if everyone is vaccinated that doesn't make him 100% safe there is going to be risks regardless.
I think you’re doing the right thing, and I also think it’s unfair of a lot of these comments to say that your choice is rude and obtrusive. In the end, you have the right to enjoy your own wedding day with peace of mind, ESPECIALLY because you had to reschedule. You’ve already dealt with enough adversity in that way - if safety means a smaller guest list, then so be it. That’s what it is to have a wedding in COVID right now. I think the only thing you should be prepared for is people declining their invites, which is something you’d have to expect, as vaccination is a personal choice at the moment. This is the best case scenario IMO - as long as you make clear that there are no hard feelings and this is out of an abundance of safety. I hope you’re able to put the stress behind you and enjoy your day!!
I think it’s certainly okay to ask that all guests be vaccinated, as long as you’re okay if they decline if they have any reason they don’t want to receive it. Especially with the circumstances of your nephew and just the current state of the world right now, I think it’s a smart choice to make! But also understand a lot of people don’t agree, so it’s inevitable that some people may decline to go