Dedicated August 2020

Vaccinations

on May 2, 2021 at 4:23 PM

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We posted on our wedding site that we’re asking all guests who are planning to attend are vaccinated. My nephew has lots of health problems and this is the primary reason we are doing it. Our ceremony is outside but the reception will be inside in a very large venue. The capacity of our venue is 600...
We posted on our wedding site that we’re asking all guests who are planning to attend are vaccinated. My nephew has lots of health problems and this is the primary reason we are doing it. Our ceremony is outside but the reception will be inside in a very large venue. The capacity of our venue is 600 and we will only be having about 80-120 people.


My uncle already lied and told me he was vaccinated and would be there. But he had actually told my mom days before that he wouldn’t be getting a vaccine. He won’t be attending now. But I’m hearing from more and more people that they aren’t planning to be vaccinated, a cousin and a few friends. I know everyone has the right to make their own choices. Was it rude of us to ask people to be vaccinated to attend? I didn’t disclose my nephew’s health condition on our website obviously but I feel like people are thinking we’re trying to push an agenda on them rather than us just trying to be safe...
What do you guys think? Should I not read too much into it? I guess I just feel bad about people not doing it but I’m obviously going to stand by our boundary to protect our nephew’s health.

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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    For more info: all of my close friends and bridal party are all vaccinated and they have said they also don’t want to attend if I have family members who aren’t vaxxed in attendance. This is mostly about my side of the family who will not get vaxxed or be truthful about it. To be honest, I really don’t care if they are they are not but invited them bc I felt it would’ve been in poor taste to uninvite them. I don’t care if they are vaxxed or not honestly. My husband and I just don’t want them at our wedding if they aren’t. I’m fine with celebrating with them another time because we are honestly not that close
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    OK… So this seems more like there’s underlying agendas here aside from your nephew. if there’s not, then you’re trying to tell me that almost everyone there will be vaccinated except for some of your family members, and everyone will still be wearing their masks, no dancing, remaining seated etc. Does your nephew go to school? Does he go to the market with his parents? There will clearly be a lot more rules and protection at your wedding for him then in any other situation that he’s probably in every single day. But I can tell this is certainly not about your nephew 100% as you also mentioned your bridal party having issues even though they are fully vaccinated... Which to me seems wrong that you would use a six-year-old as the forefront of your motive here. I think the adult thing to do would be to just uninvite the people you have personal differences with.
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    I would put on your website every single precaution you are taking for covid, and put a link to CDC and local guidelines, so guests understand that you're taking this seriously and not using the vaccine as an "excuse" to throw a pre covid type party. The anti vaxxers may weed themselves out if they realize they'll have to be masked up and still act like we're in a pandemic.


    What irks me is when couples require the vaccine and intend to throw an indoor, 200 person bash with buffet, no masks, no distancing, full on bash as if covid doesn't exist.
    If you're taking multiple precautions and abiding by guidelines, then it is much more understandable and reasonable.
    Have a lovely wedding!
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Yes that is what I am saying. Most people in our are ARE vaccinated. Yes, we are requiring masks because that is the norm where we live. The space we are renting is massive and people will be able to dance at their own tables. The venue can hold upwards of 1200 people and we are having only a small fraction. No, he does not go to school. He is virtual and no he does not go to the store. He stays home or plays outside, that’s it. There is no hidden agenda here. If our nephew was not an issue, I would tell my friends to just deal with it. He is the forefront because he can’t be vaccinated! He’s a child. At this point, I’m disengaging because I’m not sure why I’m explaining myself to you
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Thank you! We have a section on all other precautions, including masking, distancing, reminding them to follow CDC guidelines etc.
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Yes that is what I am saying. Most people in our are ARE vaccinated. Yes, we are requiring masks because that is the norm where we live. The space we are renting is massive and people will be able to dance at their own tables. The venue can hold upwards of 1200 people and we are having only a small fraction. No, he does not go to school. He is virtual and no he does not go to the store. He stays home or plays outside, that’s it. There is no hidden agenda here. If our nephew was not an issue, I would tell my friends to just deal with it. He is the forefront because he can’t be vaccinated! He’s a child. At this point, I’m disengaging because I’m not sure why I’m explaining myself to you
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    The nephews parents are the ones who would be putting him at risk here. That’s the real issue. While I’m sure they would like to be able to control his environment so that he runs no risk, that’s not going to happen.
    Anyone could have covid, even those who have had the vaccine - staff, guests, anyone.
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    I definitely agree with you.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    OK but that’s what I don’t understand. So you’re still going to have dancing, even though it’s been proven that dancing puts receptions at a MUCH higher risk. If you read the information per CDC, it says that the vaccine doesn’t mean that you can’t still pass the virus along. It just means that you PERSONALLY won’t get sick. This is all new recent information. I’m surprised you didn’t know that. Others being vaccinated does not at all mean that your nephew still won’t get sick. Will you be enforcing this of all of your vendors cooks to and the servers too? You seem pretty worried about him, but you also seem OK with taking the risk of getting him sick so you can have dancing at your party.
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    I have read that and I do know that. The bottom line is I am not his parent. I can express my opinion to them which I have but I cannot control what someone else does with their child.
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  • Samantha
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    I know it’s hard to tell people to sit with their own decisions like this.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    Well then I think that’s really sad that not just the bride n groom, but also the parents care more about a party than the safety of their child. Best of luck.
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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    I think it’s really sad that you make assumptions about people without knowing them? We’re doing all we can to protect him based on his parents choices. Do you even have a disposable 35k to lose? I’m sure you can’t empathize. Best of luck to you as well.
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    Sara ·
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    Don't even bother arguing with these people. There are some very vocal anti-vaxxers on this forum who simply like to argue... You're doing the right thing!

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  • Dedicated August 2020
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    Thanks I appreciate it! Logging off now lol
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    Actually, my wedding is just above 40K total and yes I was also bound to the contract as I’ve already told you. And my state is just as strict, and many brides continue to not have any dancing to be safe. But that’s completely irrelevant. You’ve acknowledged that dancing puts your party at a MUCH higher risk but you’re doing it anyway. And you’ve also acknowledged that people can still pass Covid even if they are vaccinated. You were talking about your six-year-old nephew here. You are still able to have your 35K party. And you can still absolutely tell everyone to get vaccinated, even though your chefs and your servers etc. might not all be vaccinated. You can pretend as if that’s enough safety measures even though you know that the CDC says otherwise because you’ve acknowledged it. So if you know your nephew is just as much at risk, I am unsure why you’re even asking the question to us. And by the way you can still have your 35K event without dancing just like every other bride that probably didn’t eat more, in order to make it safer for your six year old nephew. If a false sense of safety is really what all of this is about.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    So if you’re referring to me, I’m definitely not an anti-vaxxer. I actually follow the science, and per CDC just because people have the vaccine doesn’t mean that they still can’t pass it. They can absolutely still pass it to vulnerable people. Denying the science just to have a false sense of security isn’t doing the right thing. It’s been dangerously irresponsible with the life of a six-year-old to go to a party
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    I was actually complaining because initially my venue wouldn’t allow on site testing. Anyone can catch Covid within 48 hours and bring it to your wedding as many other brides have also advised. But I also don’t have any six year old children attending with compromised health. I actually don’t have anyone with any compromised health issues attending. I’m doing virtual for those people for their safety. Maybe it’s something you might want to think about
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  • Kristin
    Devoted December 2021
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    So how come it is ok for that bride and not this bride?? The hypocrisy on this website is astounding.


    OP, I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. Hopefully the rest of your loved ones will be honest and follow your wishes. I wish you the best of luck in creating the safe place for your loved ones.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    First off, it is absolutely 100% OK for both brides to do whatever they wish at their events.

    Here’s the difference though… that bride is only having a 25 person outdoor wedding where everyone will be vaccinated where no one has compromised health issues.

    This person is having a 120 person party inside with dancing while there is a 6 year old child with serious compromised health issues there.
    Let’s not be mistaken, I think it’s great that everyone is willing to get the vaccine, but that’s not the issue here. The issue here is that there’s a little child that is still very much at risk. Just because you get the vaccine doesn’t mean that you can’t pass it. Don’t ask me ask the CDC
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