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mrsbigtexas
Dedicated December 2019

*Update in comments* NWR: best friend in love with an engaged man

mrsbigtexas, on October 17, 2017 at 12:22 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 63

Ok, I honestly don't even know how to write this or what I'm even trying to ask. My best friend and I just moved in together about a month ago. Several weeks ago she told me about this guy at work that wouldn't stop flirting with her and was engaged. I was pretty blunt when I told her she needed to...

Ok, I honestly don't even know how to write this or what I'm even trying to ask. My best friend and I just moved in together about a month ago. Several weeks ago she told me about this guy at work that wouldn't stop flirting with her and was engaged. I was pretty blunt when I told her she needed to shut it down. Fast forward to this weekend and she reveals that the guy she's been sleeping with for the past month or two is actually the engaged guy and she's in love with him. They were supposed to end it today but they didn't and instead they decided to spend the whole day at our apartment and cook dinner together. She doesn't want to talk to me about it because she knows how I feel about him and the situation, and frankly I don't want to talk about it either because I'm super uncomfortable with it and I wouldn't even know how. I love her and want to be supportive of her, but this is just so wrong and I don't know how to act around her anymore or what to say.

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  • MrsBeetoBe
    Super October 2017
    MrsBeetoBe ·
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    Oh dear OP. I'm really sorry you're in the middle of this. It's a very uncomfortable and complicated situation for everyone involved. My heart breaks for everyone. This is clearly an illicit relationship that damages more than just the people involved (think family, friends of the previously engaged couple). Plus, even if this new relationship is legitimate, it's now rooted in infidelity and deceit which is extremely hard to come out of. My advice is be the best friend you can manage to be until you feel like you can't be friends anymore. Your friend could be going through some tough stuff, especially if this relationship doesn't pan out and she will need support. You of course aren't obligated to give her that and you have to put your own emotional health first, but there will be another side to all of this eventually, whether it's good or bad.

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  • FutureMrs.Px0
    Dedicated September 2019
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    No advice I just really feel horrible for his Fiancé... She probably has no idea she is marrying a pig

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  • Cori
    Savvy October 2018
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    Oh wow! I would be uncomfortable too! I would just be very blunt with your friend, she's putting you in a situation that makes you really uncomfortable! He's obviously a douchebag because he's made a commitment to someone and sleeping with someone else! I'd be worried that his fiance would find out about it and eventually confront him at your place... Ya never know! Anyhow, I guess if you're roommates you can't tell her who she can and can't have as her "company" but If definitely tell her it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want the drama catching up with you. But as her friend (if you're close enough) tell her that she's cutting herself short by doing what she's doing.

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