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Just Said Yes May 2023

Unwanted wedding guest

Courtney, on May 25, 2022 at 3:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7
My fiancé wants to invite his old roommate to our wedding. They had been roommates since before we started dating and being around her has always made me uncomfortable.
And it’s not because my fiancé had a female roommate, it’s because one of my ex boyfriends cheated on me with her. She hasn’t crossed any boundaries in my current relationship, but her presence still irks me… How should I handle this?

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Latest activity by Cathy, on May 29, 2022 at 5:38 AM
  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    That is something you have to discuss with him. I would not feel comfortable with that but if she has not affected your current relationship, then he is allowed to invite whomever he wants. Most guests don’t spend that much time with the couple anyway so you may not even notice her.
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  • Sloane
    Super May 2022
    Sloane ·
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    Agreed! That’s a hard situation but you are in a new chapter in your life with the man who is pledging not to cheat on you. So I think if it were me and would invite her and show grace. But your feelings are valid.
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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    I wouldn't be comfortable with any of that. I feel like your fiancé should have your back on this.

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    Devoted April 2023
    Lucy ·
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    Most people think each newlywed-to-be can invite whoever they want... I disagree when it comes to situations like this. You should sit him down, explain how you feel. If he trully puts you above anyone else, then he'll have your back.
    But it sounds like you haven't discussed this case with him yet. If you don't have this chat, you'll never know whether he'll avoid inviting her.
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    Dedicated July 2022
    Tyff ·
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    Absolutely not. No people that give the bride bad vibes are allowed. Imagine feeling like that your entire wedding? After investing all the time abs vision into YOUR day. Nope non negotiable!
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    Dedicated July 2021
    MaryElena ·
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    Oh my! Talk with your fiancé ASAP. That definitely sounds uncomfortable. Your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life and you don’t need the extra stress. Good luck!
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  • Cathy
    Dedicated September 2022
    Cathy ·
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    She would not be on the invite list. Why does FH think it is ok to invite her?
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