BreeCheez
VIP April 2015

Unsure about when to use the term "The Bride"

BreeCheez, on February 23, 2015 at 11:02 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23
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I have been assuming that the actual person getting married (the female party) was the bride, & could be considered "the bride" until the wedding, even if it's 2-3 months away.

Assuming this, I mentioned that I was the bride in a sentence to someone the other day & she flat out told me I wasn't the bride. She was a bride, since she was already married- she was a Bride, I was not. I was told that I'm not the bride until the day of my wedding & I'm just engaged.

Seemed to me like someone just had a bug int heir butt, but I don't want to make the mistake of saying it again, if I'm not "the Bride"

I didn't even think it was that big of a deal? Just curious. what exactly makes one of us girls the bride? or are we not until our perspective wedding days?

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Latest activity by Deanna, on September 24, 2019 at 8:39 AM
  • FutureMrsWalton
    VIP August 2015
    FutureMrsWalton ·
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    I call myself the bride!! Technically, she isn't the bride anymore anyway. Her wedding is over. She is just a wife now.

    Any vendors that I speak with ask if I am the bride.

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  • Allison
    Master May 2015
    Allison ·
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    I always got that confused with bride-to-be. I think that's what we are considered as engaged ladies.

    But I also thought you were only a bride the day of.

    I don't know, I don't call myself a bride, period. lol

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  • DanieGee
    VIP October 2014
    DanieGee ·
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    I've never even thought of this, but for curiosity's sake I consulted a dictionary, which said a bride is "a newly married woman or a woman about to be married."

    On the other hand, I had a 14 month engagement and from Day 1, family, friends, and vendors were referring to me as "the bride" or "bride-to-be."

    I agree, it sounds like someone had a bug up her butt. Call yourself whatever you like!

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  • Reese
    Master July 2015
    Reese ·
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    I agree with FutureMrsWatson. She definitely isn't a bride anymore. She was the bride and now she's a married woman.

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  • Chantel
    Master July 2016
    Chantel ·
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    Haha, this is kind of funny. I'm on the same page as you. I had assumed we were brides until the day after the wedding. Then we are wives.

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  • .
    Master October 2013
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    I believe there's some ancient society "rule" that you are a "bride" through the first year of marriage.

    I guess it depends on the context. I wouldn't have walked up to someone and been like "Hi, I'm Stephanie, John's bride!" but in vendor meetings and such, yes, I was "the bride"

    I think your friend is wayyyy overreacting.

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  • MrsPope
    Master September 2015
    MrsPope ·
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    She is a wife now. You are a bride.

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  • Cricket Catering
    Cricket Catering ·
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    From Webster's dictionary online:

    bride

    noun \ˈbrīd\

    : a woman who has just married or is about to be married

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  • BreeCheez
    VIP April 2015
    BreeCheez ·
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    Ya'll aren't gonna believe it it wasn't a friend it was my mother... (& he was married in 1994) Of all people.

    I just wanted to be clear (If a store asks who the bride is, I say myself ya know, it makes sense) but just to save any additional drama, I think if anyone asks or I have to call myself by my title, I will stick to "Bride-To-Be" & I will gladly change it to wife April 12..

    Thank you all for the input, I just didn't want to say Bride if that wasn't correct.

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  • Tania Lynn
    Super July 2015
    Tania Lynn ·
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    That girl needs to chill, she's taking this way too seriously. I am referred to as "the bride" all the time. During your engagement and you're newly married stage (honeymoon, first couple weeks, etcetera...) I thinks it's perfectly appropriate. Your friend is a wife. She doesn't seem to like that term which is odd cause I'm very excited to be called a wife.

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  • Mrs. Lav
    Master November 2015
    Mrs. Lav ·
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    OMG your mom needs to chill. Does she expect to be called "the bride" at your wedding too? Maybe before the ceremony? UGH.

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  • BreeCheez
    VIP April 2015
    BreeCheez ·
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    @futuremrslav I hope not... Idk if my mom has regrets that have been lurking all this time about her own wedding, but she makes me want to leave her out of everything b/c she is being very difficult (& I don't understand, we have always been really close & gotten along very well). At this point with 40-something days to go, I'm just appeasing her so she actually shows up @ our wedding (I'm pretty sure she is going to find a way to skip out on both the showers...

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  • Mrs. Lav
    Master November 2015
    Mrs. Lav ·
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    Ugh, that stinks. I'm choosing to leave my mom out of everything, and she's pouting about it and trying to make everyone feel bad for her. Funny thing is, she said some really nasty things to FH and has given me article print outs about marrying the wrong person, so have a hard time believing she supports the marriage. She's just mad she doesn't get to plan a party. Sorry-- can't have it both ways!

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  • DanieGee
    VIP October 2014
    DanieGee ·
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    Ok, that's weird! Your mother is no longer the bride - she WAS a bride, but now she is definitely a wife. Or the mother of the bride!

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  • S
    Master June 2015
    Sara ·
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    Ugh, I'm sorry your mom is being difficult. I don't know why anybody would care when a woman starts/stops calling herself the bride. In reference to your wedding, you are absolutely the bride. And sometimes even married women are referred to as their husband's bride, even after years of marriage. Whenever a woman considers herself 'the bride', it doesn't take anything away from any other woman or 'bride', so who cares. Your mom needs to chill.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    I knew a sweet old couple married for over 50 years. The husband always referred to her as his bride.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Is there nothing else to think about?

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  • OGSue
    Master August 2016
    OGSue ·
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    Agreed, you're the bride (especially when discussing with vendors, etc), and she's a wife! And really call yourself whatever you want!! People already refer to me as "the wife", I only freaked out at people if they said it around BF (at the time) prior to him proposing. I didn't want him to feel pressured.

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  • A&G
    Master August 2014
    A&G ·
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    I didn't start calling myself "the bride" until closer to the wedding. At the rehearsal dinner I introduced myself as "the bride". It sounds weird using it after you are married. At that point yor are "the wife". "The bride" is the term used a short while before your wedding and then during your wedding.

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  • Elle
    Master March 2015
    Elle ·
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    I have never heard someone correct me on that. I am the bride, when it comes to this wedding. I'm not A BRIDE everyday. But when it comes to talking about the wedding in general yes I am. When you walk into a bridal salon they ask "And who is the bride?" they don't say "And who is the female party getting married in about a year?" So dumb.

    YOU ARE THE BRIDE! and don't let this girl tell you you are not!

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