Unprofessional Vendors and how to handle them

Wow! Can you also post on Yelp? I would also suggest putting what city she is in on the post.

FH needs to tell her to cease all contact or you will file a police report. In this instance I feel like you should be able to provide her name...

MODS...is that allowed???

Review her everywhere. I assume you're not using her, right?

That's a new one..... I'd say that fishing in a pool of engaged men is probably the most pointless endeavor ever.

Any proof?

Say what now? It's not Wednesday yet.

@GymRat my thoughts exactly

Me too.

I'm super curious as to what she is saying, specifically.

BUT if she really is soliciting other services, find her on yelp, google, etc. Maybe you can e-mail WW.

I would probably avoid saying words like "pig" in your review. Keep it professional or no one will take it seriously.

I'm not sure what that means...but I've made everything on my wedding wire account private because of this individual if that's what you are referring to about a 2 star rating with a private account. As a matter of fact, I just made everything private as of last week because I don't want this "woman" knowing any more of our plans. I kind of have a bad taste in my mouth with this website considering their vendors are not properly vetted to ensure, oh I don't know...PROFESSIONALISM.

That's not good! For the most part if you have a signed contract with the vendor then your review will be re-instated on WeddingWire.

But I have to say, if I was going through this personally I think I'd rather cancel my contract with the vendor immediately and ask her to cease and desist all contact with you and your FH.

https://support.weddingwire.com/hc/en-us/articles/205700125-Disputed-Review-FAQ

ETA: just saw your last comment @FewchurMrs! WeddingWire is a neutral marketplace designed to help engaged couples find vendors and to connect wedding vendors to those looking for their services! The reviews written by our couples is how everyone shares their experience with that specific vendor and how you can make an educated decision to book them!

Ladies...I'm 41 years old. I have zero desire with my wedding in less than 10 weeks to deal with some homewrecker who finds that using her wedding planning services to find love as something to add to my stress factor. Thanks for your support though...greatly appreciated.

WWLynnie, I have no contract with this vendor. There was no way that I was going to use her. She made initial contact...then when rejected, laid low for a bit. Then, like a snake...reared her head up to throw out a line...then when that was not reciprocated, she retreated. Then just last week...guess who tried again (twice in one day) to contact my fiancé. He sent me the email that she sent TO HIS JOB. I contacted her...nothing. She cowers when confronted. Then she tried texting him late at night that same day. I tried calling her phone...no answer. If a man was interested...he'd be easily swayed. But when a man isn't bothering to answer or respond then one would think that a woman would get the hint.

There is no vetting but writing a check, okay? It's an advertising site. We write a check; we're here. That shouldn't be so mysterious to you. Reviews? Yes, they are vetted. If you have no contract that proves a relationship, you can't review here. Prett y logical.

I'm still waiting for proof. You're use of words (pig, homewrecker) makes you suspect in my book....just sayin'.

So what proof am I supposed to provide? The text messages? The emails?

If I was "suspect"...I would have plastered this woman's business name and personal name all over this thread. Yet instead, I asked for advice and I get judgment?

Ya know, the more I think about it, the less concerned I am with advice from biased opinions. I'm sure that some cannot fathom that a vendor would possibly be unprofessional however yes, it does happen. And thank you for informing me that just anyone could write a check and promote themselves to Wedding Wire. I wasn't aware of that. But I am ever so glad that know that now. Lessens the credibility and now I know what I'm working with.

No one has judged you; I think we're just asking for something that makes this a credible story, because so far, it's not. I've been here for years, and I've never seen you post, but you come in guns a-blazing accusing a vendor of trying to sleep with your fiance.

Do you get how weird that feels?

Can you screen shot messages or e-mails and then share them with her boss? Or post them so other people can see them? I would definitely review her publicly for what she is doing.

Woahhhhh that's crazy. Which vendor was this so I don't book with them. Also, what's a troll?

I would be very, very careful about what you perceive to be her intent and what you do about it publicly.

Because you're pretty much in a 'he said she said' situation at this point.

You don't have to share anything with us, but before you make an accusation, post reviews, contact her boss, make very sure of the what has transpired.

That's not an unprofessional vendor and how to handle them question.

You shouldn't have to tell your FH to stop contacting her. That seems self explanatory.

As far as the reviews- it's pretty flat out- if you have a signed contract- you can post a review- this could include a picture of the suspect text messages you claim to exist.

Yes...and I apologize...I'm just a bit upset. Well, very upset. And I truly thought this woman went away because we didn't hear anything from her in months. Then last week, she tries not only once but twice.

So let me back up a bit: I'm 41 years old, work full-time with teenage children. My fiancé is in his 40's as well. We both work full-time and I was looking for help in the wedding planning arena. I attended a couple of bridal shows and was just completely overwhelmed so I knew that I needed help. Hence why I thought that maybe I needed a wedding planner.

My goal was to have someone I could bounce ideas off of or say "this is what I want...make it happen because I have no idea how to do it". There was not a Wedding Wire back when I first married in 1999, at least not that I knew of. So all of this was/is foreign to me. I come to Wedding Wire to see if there are topics on issues that I'm having or concerns...and I get ideas or read situations that are close to mine to see what people think. Fast forward to the wedding planner. Clearly she has a hankering for my fiancé. I get it...so do I. But he's taken. Anyways, I knew something was off when she practically refused to speak to me other than the initial conversation. From what I've gathered thus far when dealing with all of the vendors, we are asked for my number, fiancé's number, email addressed for both, etc. I even created an email just or wedding things because my personal email inbox was being overrun with messages. It's VERY overwhelming. My fiancé is not one to jump at the first offer so we shopped around. The more anxious I became getting closer to the wedding date, the more I was pushing for help. And it seemed as though "she" (wedding planner) was more interested in keeping tabs with my fiancé than with me...and I am the one "planning" the wedding. So I'm sitting back thinking...why is this woman constantly contacting my fiancé about meeting her? Why isn't she contacting me...considering he made it pretty clear from the getgo that it's whatever I want?

So over the course of the last...oh I don't know...year now...she pops up in his email or he gets some weird encrypted text message from her. Then when he/myself tries to call her back immediately, she doesn't answer and then sends a text "I can't talk right now". Well then why did you text him in the first place?

Our wedding is October 22. I'm not sure if you can see that on my profile but I can. However I did make my profile private last week because of her. I even sent her a picture of our wedding invitation (just the part that says our names and wedding date because she already knew that information) to let her know that we do not need her services...we found someone else. Yet...she will not stop contacting him.

This isn't something that I'd go to the police over...at least not yet. This is a wedding planner who clearly is smitten but is either playing games and thinks she's funny or truly gets her kicks off of trying to destroy someone's life. Either way...it's not funny. I was hoping to get some professional advice from either a vendor or someone who had gone through this because this website seems to have a topic on EVERYTHING. I've tried relating to her professionally by saying "hey, we don't need your wedding planning services". That didn't work. I tried approaching her personally to say "hey, if he was interested...he would cease wedding plans and come running to you". That didn't work. Now I'm at the point where all I can do is say "Fine...if this is how you want to run your business, then that's where I'll get my point across.". What else can I do? Just leave it? Do I leave it? Do I file a formal complaint? Do I embarrass myself and my fiancé and post her messages on a public forum for the world to see? How far do I have to go before this woman just stops the nonsense?

I don't have to ask my FH to stop contacting her. He's not the problem. SHE IS. I thought this was the perfect question on an unprofessional vendor and how to handle them issue. To me it seems pretty self-explanatory that she's unprofessional. I don't badger my clients to come "visit me" alone or meet me by themselves or text them inappropriately or after hours. But since this is a wedding concern...and this is a wedding website...and there are forums where people can ask about anything and everything...I figured I could get some insight here.

That's what advertising is though.....people pay to get their business advertised on WW, on social media sites, Newspaper ads, commercials....do you watch TV commercials and say that company is not creditable bc they paid for that commercial? Its up to you to research further, read reviews, etc and vet the vendors.

Yes it is possible for vendors to act unprofessional. So you should totally write a review, tell her your interested in her services and go away. If she still doesn't escalate it to her boss if its her business tell her you'll have her sued for harassment if she dosen't stop harassing your FH