Unprofessional Vendors and how to handle them

Okay, I'll bite.

What exactly is she saying to your FH? You haven't been very specific so it's difficult to tell how I would react in this situation.

How did she get his work email address?

@ELK it looks like the e-mail think was covered in her last reply. She got both of their phone numbers and e-mail addresses.

I want to know what this vendor is saying, but it doesn't seem like OP wants to share.

Like I said, find her on google, Yelp, Facebook, The Knot, etc, and write reviews. BUT be warned that people may want proof.

We're not saying we don't believe you, but someone will. And this is a large accusation - A very quick way to destroy someones livelihood. If she deserves it, so be it, but I think that you should be prepared for this to happen.

Thank you for your responses however it has become ever clear that I'm in the wrong place for sound advice. Apparently if your star rating isn't of a particular level or your profile is private to avoid a crazy, delusion check-writing vendor then you are clearly a troll, whatever that entails.

I posed a valid question with a valid concern and all I've been asked to do is prove MYSELF. I know no one here...I have nothing to prove or disprove...I just wanted some advice on dealing with an unprofessional vendor who continues to harass us. I found this person by using Wedding Wire so I thought this would be the place to go to seek help. I was wrong.

So I'll pass on embarrassing myself further by posting screen shots for you to review, judge and place yourself on your pedestal of thankfulness that you don't have to deal with such nonsense. For me, this is humiliating to even have to ask for advice on the matter. I'm embarrassed for myself. I'm embarrassed for women who resort to behaving like this to find a release in their lives. I'm ashamed that in 2016 THIS is as far as we've become. I'm disappointed that I didn't chose more wisely in seeking help with my wedding planning and wedding help/advice.

Thank you for the 3-ring circus ladies...you really helped me a lot.

What, I'm so confused? OP, people are giving you advice. You should write reviews about her poor behavior, but will you need to have proof of what occurred as these are career ending accusations.

We get trolled A LOT on this site so that's where the doubt comes from but I've read through the comments and I think you've gotten some good advice and answers. I'm not exactly sure what you were expecting. Write reviews, contact her boss, end communication all sounds like pretty sound advice to me

You can post reviews on sites like Yelp, Google, etc. Any person worth their salt would read reviews from other sources.

Heck! I will not even eat at a new place unless it has a crap-ton of reviews. (unless it is new of course)

I have a question.... Do you really think "future" is spelled "fewchur" ?

I don't understand why you think you're not getting advice.

When you make accusations, the burden of proof is on you, not the person you're accusing. I'm not saying this vendor is acting appropriately, but like you said- we don't know you or your situation and can't be asked to weigh in on something so one sided.

Why would you send her a picture of your invitation??? That's inviting drama.

Block her number.

Block her number (you can do it right from an iphone) and her email address!

I don't think she's a troll and totally get where she's coming from!

Also if she found this vendor from here can't wedding wire take them off where her business won't be shown on here?

And that is the problem with the WW review system. You have to have a contract or you can't leave a review. So if you decided NOT to use a vendor for a particular reason, you can't leave a review with the reason why. It sucks. I wish they had a system like Amazon where they have verified reviews (ie. had a contract) and non-verified (maybe made contact, but didn't use that vendor).

The problem? No one knows what is actually going on. And if she's paid vendor? She stays here because.....no one knows what is actually going on.

And by the way, there was just a huge scandal about fake reviews and paid reviewers on Amazon, so let's not be holding that up as some paradigm of honest reviews...

The system on WW is about as clean as it gets.

It's entirely possible that what this vendor is sending are automated texts and emails that go on some kind of list and that she's not even aware, when she's sending these emails, that they're going to your FH but that when he tries to call back, she looks at the number, recognizes it, and knows you two aren't interested in her services so she doesn't respond.

Otherwise, I think this is nonsense. I doubt anyone would risk their bread and butter to hit on a groom and I suspect you might be taking this out of proportion since we have not seen any shred of evidence from which to judge.