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Just Said Yes August 2019

Unplugged Ceremonies: Offensive or No?

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Jessica , on June 6, 2019 at 10:50 AM

This week I eluded to my wedding being an unplugged ceremony on Facebook. Someone had shared a compilation of photos detailing how special moments can be obscured by people being on their phones taking photos. I have decided to have an unplugged ceremony due to the fact that we’re paying a LOT for our photographer and videographer and if just seems rude to be on your phone during such an important moment. Anyway, my mom was very offended by the post and very offended at the idea o an unplugged ceremony. I have explained to her my reasoning and explained that it is only for the ceremony. I have never been rude in my intentions of having an unplugged ceremony, nor did I plan to inform my guests in a rude manner. Yet, my mom is livid and thinks the idea is very rude and offensive and has even publicly vowed on Facebook to not attend my wedding if it’s unplugged. Someone help me understand why my mom is so upset and if unplugged ceremonies truly are THAT offensive.

Thank you!

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Expert September 2019
Rachel · on June 10, 2019 at 2:43 PM
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I'm over here just wondering if she'd have had a different stance if smart phones had been around when she got married........
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Jennifer future Mrs. K-H · on June 10, 2019 at 3:03 PM
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Wow that response seems a bit extreme for your mom. is that characteristic of her? I bet she will attend but still just take photos on her phone. what can you do, she's your mom. but if she's about to lead a "revolt" due to having an unplugged ceremony talk to her. maybe it's just stress getting to her? there seems like there's something deeper going on.
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Jennifer future Mrs. K-H · on June 10, 2019 at 3:04 PM
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Ha! great point. smh
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Beginner June 2019
Markita · on June 10, 2019 at 9:09 PM
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Exactly! you can't control them..so why even ask.
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Whitney · on June 12, 2019 at 10:05 AM
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I'm so sorry you're receiving this response. We are also having an unplugged wedding. I decided that years ago when I watched an entire ceremony through someone's iPad; he was on the front row holding an iPad over his head! People get a device in their hand and seem to ignore all rules of etiquette and propriety. The last few weddings I've been to, no one made the unplugged announcement but most people had their phones down anyways, probably because my group of friends is all getting married within a few years and we've realized the importance of not having phones in the background of every shot. Stick to your guns and keep articulating the reasons why you've made this choice. Alternatively, show her an example of some photos with phones in the background, because maybe she can't visualize the impact.
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