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Uninvited to wedding reception due to capacity- what's proper response as a guest

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Kendra, on March 8, 2015 at 4:36 AM

I'm posting this question as a guest to someone else's wedding. We received an invitation to a friends wedding and RSVP'd before the deadline that we would be in attendance. Three weeks before the wedding we received an apologetic mass email saying they had reached capacity for their reception but we were welcome to attend the ceremony and another get together that they are planning to have some time after the wedding. We already purchased non refundable plane tickets and booked a hotel room and rental car. We're trying to figure out how to properly respond to the email we received. We're pretty taken aback that the couple would even send such a message. We don't want to travel such a great distance to only attend the wedding ceremony, get kicked out before the reception, then go to some after party (that would be at our expense), but we already purchased the tickets. Is there a proper response to a situation like this?

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Kemmie · on March 8, 2015 at 7:52 PM
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That's sheisty as all hell I wouldn't go
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Private · on March 8, 2015 at 9:25 PM
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Wow unbelievable!
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Kendra · on March 9, 2015 at 12:42 PM
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Okay I feel a little bad that I've made my husband's friend out to be such a total jerk. They way they're handling their guest situation is definitely not the way I would've handled it. But I know from experience that planning a wedding can make some people do crazy things. Normally he really is a pretty decent guy. That's why we were so shocked to have apparently been uninvited to their wedding reception, especially in the way that it happened. I do hope this situation can serve as a warning to others about inviting more people than you can afford or than your venue can accommodate.
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Precious · on March 9, 2015 at 1:25 PM
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I would see if I could exchange the plane tickets to a different destination and go on a vacation.
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Maltese · on March 9, 2015 at 1:27 PM
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I would do what Precious said, and if not I would be sending her the receipt for my plane tickets, expecting reimbursement. Thats not cool for anyone to do
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FutureMrs.DCT · on March 10, 2015 at 11:37 AM
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@Kendra, I agree, lesson for all of us NO over inviting!!!! I know many ladies on here have had parents pressure them into it. So everyone save this post to show how horrible it could turn out when you over invite and expect people to decline.
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