Uninvited to the bridal shower?

I would definitely not go and I would keep the gift or return it for something you can use. That is so rude she doesn't deserve your time or gift.

I wouldn't go and I would consider returning the gift depending on what role the bride has in this. If you can be easily tossed aside because of their poor planning, you clearly aren't close enough to the bride to warrant giving her a present. And if this aunt brings up anything about the present, I would say that you returned it when you were told not to come, because that's pretty much what you were told.

I am shocked at the rudeness of some people, I would decline.

Was the gift you got from the registry? If so use it as a wedding gift and send something small to her with a little card.

I'd go because the shower is for the bride, not the rude aunt. At least you know ahead of time it might be overcrowded and seats may not be constantly available. Hopefully this issue will teach the host to plan better for future parties

Get her this egg-turd maker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xzIlNdQdZ7g

I would not go and not get a gift. I'm sorry that sucks.

If you aren't supposed to throw parties honoring yourself, it's likely the bride to be doesn't know about the conversation or that the host over-invited for the venue.

You took the day off work and bought the gift. You should go. Enjoy yourself. It's not nice to take it out on the bride.

Oh im certain she knows of it. We have had many convo's about this and the amount of people invited are insane.

Im also certain she isnt a fan of me.

I would go and bring a folding chair to sit my happy ass on in spite. But that's just me.

I agree with PP...don't go and no way to the gift.

Is not go and not send a gift, honestly. I'd also make sure my ILs knew why, but I'm petty af about this kind of stuff.

Wow so rude! I would send the gift with FMIL and write something petty in the card like "hey girl hope you have a FAB shower despite the fact that there are so few seats xoxox"

And then give the aunt a fruit cake for Christmas

I would be inclined to give the gift to FMIL also to take and explain the Aunt's behavior and make sure they are aware of WHY you're not there. FMIL may take offence at you blowing it off without explanation and you don't want to start off on the wrong foot with her.

@Mary Lynn- shower gifts are generally brought or sent by those invited to the shower, not those asked in so many words, not to come.

I wouldn't go and I'd keep or return the gift. That's crazy!

Go if you want to. Don't go if you don't. That's poor planning, not your problem. I'm also of the belief that we should teach people around us not to be passive aggressive by not taking passive aggressive hints. If she wanted to ask you not to come, she should ask. Otherwise, just go as if you didn't get the hint. Eventually people will stop passively hinting stuff.

I'd be furious, and I would NOT give the gift you previously purchased. Use it as a gift for someone you love, keep it for yourself, or do something else with it, but jeeze!

Wow. Rude! I would go in spite and go completely off registry without return receipts! Lol

Yeah, I would decline and not send a gift. That's so rude!