Uninvite a bridesmaid?

So wait, not only are you asking her to step down from being a bridesmaid but you're going to tell her you don't want her at the weddin at all? So rude.

Oh sadly i think, if you asked already its too late. are any other bridesmaids also friends with this one? you shouldn't have to babysit her on your wedding day, maybe one of the other girls can keep an eye on her. Im pretty non-confrontational myself but could you try talking to her about it? it'd probably be best to do that before you just uninvite her. maybe she feels remorseful about making a scene at the last wedding and already plans on keeping it together this time. if she doesn't think she was a problem last time then you might have to resort to uninviting her.

Don't be flaky... You can't unvite her for a crime she hasn't committed yet. You should probably talk to her. It won't PREVENT anything from happening, but at least she'll know your expectations.

I think if your close enough to ask her to be a bridesmaid, you are close enough to ask her not to act like that and to watch her alcohol intake. If you uninvite her to the wedding, you may end up losing her as a friend entirely. If you are prepared to take that risk, then that is an option. I think you should try asking and talking to her first though.

My brothers girlfriend gets like that as well and I have already said the moment she gets belligerent or tries to start a fight with him, (she always does after drinking a lot), I will call her a cab and she will go home. No one should have to babysit anyone.

Agree with Truffle. If she's really your friend, she'll listen to your concerns. Just don't be all judgy-wudgy or single her out, just use a simple, "Hey, I'm asking all the bridesmaids to limit their alcohol intake at the reception, do you think you can do that?"

Why did you ask her in the first place if you thought she was going to be a problem?

You're both adults. Have a conversation with her about how you'd like her to behave at your wedding. If she does end up too drunk, c'est la vie. It will reflect poorly on her, not you.

She is totally welcome as a guest at the wedding...just worried about her being in the WP

If she's going to get drunk & cause a scene it won't matter if she's a bridesmaid or not. I wouldn't ever uninvite a bridesmaid or ask one to step down. They are supposed to to be your closest friends.

You should have thought about that before you asked her to be a bridesmaid. Do not uninvite her. So rude.

She's going to probably act the same way as a guest as she would in the WP. Only difference will be that she'll be in pics. Have a serious talk with her about what you expect. If she starts acting up during the reception, have her escorted out.

I agree - but I did want an update, darn it!!!!