Unhappy bride

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time with planning your wedding. There are lots of ways to cut costs in planning a wedding! Small guest list, artificial flowers, buffet as opposed to sit down meal, limited alcohol etc. Have you looked into cheap/free venues like a public park, church/rec room, state parks?

Hi DeAndre, I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. Have you tried having an honest conversation with your fh to talk about the specific things you are arguing about? I would say if funds are the problem the option could always be to create a savings plan and postpone. I have also seen beautiful weddings done on a budget. I would definitely recommend having a conversation with him before making a decision.

This was absolutely everything I felt when FH and I got engaged and I had no idea what to do or how to plan a wedding. I took a step back, figured out what we wanted, talked to FH a LOT about things, and eventually we figured it out.

Look into parks and public halls, those aren't expensive to rent. We're having our ceremony and reception at a park venue and paid around $900 for 12 hours to use it.

Look around for local restaurants for the reception, or have something simple like just cake and punch in the early afternoon.

I'm sorry to hear that.
Is the wedding coming up soon? Are you arguing about wedding stuff?
If you can maybe just push the wedding back so you have more time to save. If not the try to cut down on costs. If need be, maybe make your own playlist, have your guests be your photographers at the reception, and try some DIYs.
And maybe try to go on a little vacation if you can and take a break from talking about the wedding if that's what you're arguing about, amd you two can just focus on eachother.

I really hope everything works out for you! Just remember, this day is about the 2 of you starting your life together. And a wedding can be beautiful without breaking the bank!

There are lots of options in between a big extravagant wedding and no wedding at all. Like PPs mentioned, there are plenty of ways to save money on the traditional wedding. You could also consider an alternative like an intimate ceremony and then dinner at a nice restaurant with your closest friends and family.

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This! A smaller wedding could be a great alternative route for you and FH to go

Take an entire week off from planning to reconnect.
take a staycation.
Remind yourself why you want to marry this man.
breathe. It will be okay.

I’m sure you two can come to a solution that works for you. Review your budget and perhaps cut the number of people. Small weddings are amazing!! You can do a nice backyard wedding and do lots of DIY to keep your costs down. If you want a larger, more extravagant wedding but don’t have the money now, then postpone the date and create a plan to save the money. Whatever you do, sit down and talk to your FH about exactly what you are thinking so he understands and doesn’t feel like you don’t want to marry him. Good luck.

If it’s the reception costing all the money then just cut costs there. Cut the DJ, fancy food, big cake, expensive decor like uplighting. Cut it back to a place you can manage. You can still feed guests or do a cake & punch reception.

I know this feeling very well, when FH and I first got engaged I was ready to book everything and plan. Then reality hit that we were just not in a position to do everything yet, so we decided to push the wedding off for another year to save money. In the mean time I worked a part-time job and saved the money from that and he picked up extra jobs as well. You might not have to call it off completely but just take the time out to set a budget and research vendors that are affordable. You can still have the wedding of your dreams.

I'd do a courthouse ceremony with a small family dinner afterwards, or just elope! All that matters is that you marry your FH, you don't need a big, expensive wedding to do that.

My FH and I worry a lot about money too and that's what we fight about. But after cutting costs and finding a new venue, we were able to cut our costs in half. If you're feeling horrible about paying a lot for your dress you could always donate it to a charity afterwards? You could always do a small ceremony and then a potluck reception at an Airbnb to make it a fun casual and cheap option? Remember that this is just one day and no matter how big or small it will be perfect to you 2 because you love each other. Best of luck

Definitely, take time off. Reconnect with your fiance. I had to do that as well.

Push the date back if needed. There are lots of ways to cut cost and still have a beautiful wedding. DIY projects.

Maybe instead of canceling a wedding postpone it to 2021 so that you can save and budget? There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. Me and FH got engaged July 2018 and It has made so anxious to marry him, but it has also given me soo much time to save and pay for the wedding we want. We are also paying for about 95% of our wedding ourselves. Weddings can def be expensive, but it does not have to be if you find the right vendors for you.

The best wedding I’ve ever attended consisted of 22 people ( including the bride and groom). She just rented a small office space and decorated herself and a lot of candles so it was so lovely and romantic. The ceremony was in that space and a dinner was served after. Then we all left and went to a bar together. Had a dance party and everyone paid for their own drinks. I believe she spent less than $2,000 on everything.

So wait and have a wedding later. Do you wanna have a wedding or get married? You can get married without a wedding. Go to the courthouse and get married and go have lunch. Later on when you can afford it, have a wedding. Or scale back your dream wedding into something more intimate.

I'm so sorry you're going through this and feeling so heartbroken, that's just terrible. Is the cost of the wedding the main issue and main reason for all the fighting??
If so, a small guest list of 50 or less is definitely where to start. Also, you could have a small justice of the peace or court house

I understand what all of you were saying. And I believe the the little girl in me who've dreamed if this day for so long wanted not big and extravagant but extremely beautiful wedding. I live in Detroit and I love my city but to have somewhere beautiful inside or out in June is either costly or by now is unavailable. I have a venue that I put money down but there has been so many issues and I can't get out of my contract. One of the reasons we are having problems.

Wedding. Then you could have the reception later and give yourself time to save and shop around for the cheapest and best options!! I hope this helps!! Good luck hun, and try to keep it together. I know it may not seem like it but it will work itself out in the end!!

There’s a big difference between calling off the wedding and calling off the PARTY. You can have a wedding without all the fanfare if you just want to marry your partner. Or, you can make some changes to have the wedding you dream of ...for example— time! If you still want to marry your partner, you can do that any time, there is no deadline. You could push the date back a year to save up funds for the wedding you want. Or you could have a small wedding sooner , and some anniversary down the road throw the big party as a vow renewal— you can still have all the fanfare then. Unless the ultimate issue is between you and your partner and conflict resolution and you’re questioning the relationship, there’s no reason to give up on the idea of MARRIAGE just because you can’t make the dream wedding work right now.