Underage Maid of Honor at Bachelorette party?!

My 19 year-old brother wasn't comfortable going to my FH's bachelor party. He felt bad because he felt like it was something he should do but I told him that he really didn't have to go and it wouldn't hurt his feelings. You probalby should just have a talk with your sister and see what her comfort level is.

If you are going out, maybe you could have a smaller hangout at your home. My FSIL is 20 and another one of my bridesmaids just had a baby so neither could go to my big bachelorette weekend. So we are all just going to get together at my house and be girly and have a nice time all together without the wild and crazy partying (which was super fun!)

Maybe you and your sister could go out for a girl's day? Brunch, nails, hair, etc. Or if that's not your cup of tea, something that you both enjoy and would really let you two bond.

I was 18 and the MOH for my sisters bachelorette party, but I was comfortable with everything. If she's not, let her know the details of the night beforehand. Maybe she'll just join in on what she condor table with. If you're doing a spa day or getting nails or waxes allow her to feel super MOH-y.

At this point since the invitations are already sent and plans already made, I'd say my best advice would be to just make the other women in your BP aware that she might be a bit uncomfortable so they can tone it down if needed. I feel your pain though. My daughter/co-MOH is 17, sister/BM is 18 and foster daughter/BM is 18 mixed with the rest of us all in our upper twenties to early thirties. My main request with my bachelorette party was doing something that included the minors. We ended up all going to a Jimmy Buffett concert (I'm a huge Parrothead) and it was everyone else's first time so I got to share that experience with them. It was awesome. So it can be done!

What are you doing for your bachelorette?

Can you suggest an activity that would include and turn the party into an all day event? Here, Painting with a Twist (but there are other places everywhere) can be a blast and allows all ages. Basically you bring beer and wine into the studio and paint a chosen picture with the help of an instructor. They also let you bring in snacks and is a lot of fun

What is your bach party? If you are going out to clubs or bars can she even get in? If it's a stay-at-home kind of party, I don't really see the big deal. But if she is uncomfortable, she doesn't have to go. It's not mandatory.

I just went to a bachelorette last weekend at one of the painting places Maltese described. So fun!

We are doing dinner and Escape the room then anyone can leave before we party it up and stay overnight in a hotel suite. My junior bridesmaid is coming to the dinner. ETA: It's MOH's daughter.

My bachelorette is going to be something that can include the minors too, like Tania. It doesn't have to be something X-rated (unless that's what you want.)

We did a Painting with a Twist class and everyone loved it. I was an older bride and had older folks there, I don't drink either so clubbing was out. If she is not comfortable, don't make her go.

Thank you all so much! The bachelorette party itself is going to be relatively tame- going to my best friend's cabin, hanging out, possibly skinny dipping in the lake, drinking and some games. I think my sister just feels weird being around me and all my friends doing clearly "adult themed" activities that aren't really meant for high schoolers. I probably would have felt the same way 10 years ago. I love the idea of a spa day with just me and her