Unconventional gifts you wished you received (bridal shower/wedding registry)

Yeah honeyfunds are one of the etiquette nonos that IDGAF about.

i've been to a number of formal ($150-$200 per plate weddings) with honeyfunds in the past, and purchased items off of them without even giving it a second thought. i'm not having one, but i never thought it was that weird before joining WW.

nobody had one that was just like a link to donate money though. i paid for specific experiences like dinner in santorini or windsurfing etc. i'm not naive and know that the couple does not necessarily have to use the money for that. these honeymoons were already booked and paid for, so it wasn't like they weren't going to do it if i didn't buy it-- i just treated them. i'm going to give them money either way though, so i didn't really care. and i knew there was a fee.

Did someone say Le Cruset?

Its rude to ask your guests for money. Plain and simple. There is no cute way of doing it.

All the judgement on you guys.

Either don't register. Or have a small registry. People will get the hint. Pay for your own honeymoon. If you get cash gifts great. You have spending money for your trip or it can go into savings.

The saying have the wedding you can afford goes for honeymoons too.

Registries are for bridal showers. What you will get in gifts, will most likely cover the cost of the shower. If you don't have one nothing lost, nothing gained. Money is the costume for wedding gifts, this money you can use as you see fit. You may have some oldschool people who will show up with a wrapped gift. But only a handful if any.

@RyaSnowy I have never personally been to a wedding with a honey fund but this is funny to me because just yesterday TONS of women were on a thread saying how Honey funds do NOT bother them. Yet this continues to happen every time one is mentioned.

Its tacky to ask for cash i wouldn't do it. My h2b and i live together and since we really didn't need anything we skipped the registering and showers and partys

@RyaSnowy --did you happen to notice that the people calling names and that have been flagged were the people defending honeyfunds? OP asked for opinions and she got them.

OP I have been invited to several weddings that have had honeyfunds and not a single person contributed. They take a fee from you/ your guests. If they donate $100 to honeyfund, you only see $93 of it. Why would you want someone to pay a fee to give a gift? Honestly, my husband and I have worked very hard to pay off our students loans as well as buy a house....I feel no obligation to help you pay yours just because I am a guest at your wedding.

Honestly when I see a honeyfund and nothing else, it makes me want to buy something personalized that cannot be returned. I paid for my own honeymoon and you can do the same or you delay it. No one NEEDS a honeymoon/vacation/staycation!

@Sara nobody NEEDS a new set of wine glasses, either.

I find it really difficult to believe people can't find things to register for......

- honeymoon things (tote/luggage/thermoses)

- new camera or electronic

- house decor

-storage

-camping or hiking gear

-replacing ANYTHING

-games

- outdoor or gardening stuff

- Bluetooth speakers

- portable battery banks for charging stuff

Shall I continue!? Lol

Also, the fee is less than you stated. They only take out 3%, which doesn't add up to much. if we're going to get down to the details.

@Rya so since 3% is NBD to you I will love to give you my direct deposit info so you can put 3% of your paycheque into my account! Thanks so much!

Also maybe if you added all that 3% from normal cash gifts most guests would give you instead of a silly website..you can actually afford your honeymoon without essentially panhandling from your guests.

Ughhhhhhhhhh why do we have to keep hearing "you can always find things to register for!" We literally just bought a house, filled it with tons of new shit and frankly were already outgrowing it and I dont have room for a damn kitchen aid. You are by no means required to register for anything.

Personally, I don't get offended by honeyfunds, but I don't contribute to them, either. Not because I think they're wrong, I just don't care for even a small portion of my gift going to the service, when I can just give cash and the happy couple gets ALL of it. At the end of the day, I just want to give the couple something they want. They can save it, spend it or donate it. They're fulfilled and I got to celebrate with them.

Since your looking for ideas, one couple requested Lowe's gift cards because they had just purchased a fixer upper. The request was not in the invitation, it was spread by word of mouth.

You can always just not register at all. Generally when I attend a wedding and the couple does not have a wedding registry, I give them cash.

If you decide to go the route you're already on, chances are, most of your guests won't have a problem with it. I really don't think people care too much. The only people who truly care about something like that are the people on this website anyway.

@theone2love I was literally just thinking the same thing lol

Don't ask for cash, for people to donate toward your honeymoon, or donate money for different experiences. That is rude af.

I responded before I read the other replies but hey @Rya I flagged your comment. For calling us obnoxious....oh and I smiled when I did it.

This isnt where I thought this post was going. I thought it was unconventional things like my Fiance wanted Star trek Napkin rings.

Welcome to WW, where you get what you get and you don't get upset!

I honestly don't have an opinion on HF. We're not doing one but serious question-if having a HF is asking for cash, then isn't a registry asking for gifts? One is ok and one is not?

It's called upgrades people. I am slowly buying a few items here and there for us, like silverware, plastic bowls, small stuff like that and we currently use them. But guess what? Bowls and shit like that are still going on my registry so I can UPGRADE them.

I'm 23 almost 24 and I know it's rude to ask for money. Adults know how to gift. Let them do so.