Un-asking a bridesmaid?

I completely understand being so excited that you just blurt it out. I think because you haven’t planned really anything yet I would do what everyone else is saying and just let it fizzle out if she brings it up be polite and just be like you have so much on your plate with being pregnant and you seemed really uninterested in the wedding that I didn’t want to put you in any kind of position you didn’t feel comfortable in so I asked so-and-so to do it instead something that sounds right to you. Honestly from what you’ve said I highly doubt she’s going to reach out about it anyways

I had asked a friend to be my Bridesmaid then I found out that she was on m3t|-| and I regretted asking her so I told her "hey, um... I didn't realize before but I had accidentally forgot to count in my fiancee sister and family before friends I don't have room for you anymore" and she was fine with that.

If you are fine losing the friendship, then I think you can un-ask her. I'd also ask your other friend regardless, and just have uneven numbers.

I think you should relax, take a step back and re-evaluate this in a few months. Wait for her to contact you. Maybe you'll just lose touch and you won't even have to un-ask her. And if she does contact you, 6 bridesmaids isn't too many. There are so many things to worry about with planning a wedding, it's important to take note of the things that can work themselves out, and go with it.

I think 6 bridesmaids would be totally fine if that's what you want to do, I wouldn't worry about that part. I agree with a PP though I think the advice to just ghost her is terrible. I would have a talk with her about it and see how she feels, who knows she may not even want to be in your bridal party anymore and doesn't know how to tell you. I think it should be pretty easy for you to give her an out and let her know that you understand she has a lot going on and she shouldn't feel obligated to continue being your bridesmaid. If your drifting apart and shes not putting in the effort for your friendship, I think it's really likely she would just take that opportunity to excuse herself. It may damage the friendship as others have said, but it doesnt seem like you guys are that close anymore anyway.

I didn't read all of the other comments but I think this is just wrong. I would ask the rest of who you want and don't worry about have too many girls as long as you have it in your budget for gifts for each. I would never GHOST someone who was so important that you asked her to stand next to you on one of the biggest days of your life. Please don't do that. Have an adult conversation with her, ask her if she may be overwhelmed or make sure she still would like to be a bm. If she says yes, just keep her in the loop with the dress & any other info she may need as a bridesmaid. If she says no she is a little overwhelmed then let her know you are ok with that. Never ever ghost a friend, that's just wrong.