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Nancibear
Just Said Yes May 2014

Ugly bride

Nancibear, on April 25, 2014 at 1:44 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 19

Please help... I'm 8 days out from the wedding and I have come to desperately hate the entire event. A week ago I had a botox injection gone wrong and it paralyzed one side of my "big" smile. I have been told repeatedly by the doctor, friends, family and my wonderful fiance that it isn't obvious, but I feel it each time I move my mouth or bubble up into a spontaneous smile or laugh. I have no choices... can't undo the damage done in time and can't cancel the wedding at this point, although I selfishly want to. I feel that all my dreams of appearing at my most beautiful on my wedding day are now destroyed. I am heartbroken and have lost motivation and excitement for my wedding day. I dread the day and dread how I will feel, worrying that I will secretly be waiting anxiously for the event to just be over with because I have already ruined it before it began. I am beyond crushed and most likely can't fix my face in time so need help fixing my outlook. xoxo

19 Comments

Latest activity by Yancie, on May 10, 2014 at 4:07 AM
  • Catalina
    Super December 2014
    Catalina ·
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    Im sure you are being to hard on yourself. Most women, including myself, are to hard and judgemental when it comes to our looks. Dont Cancel your wedding, dont stress out and enjoy getting married to the man of your dreams

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  • Ashley
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    Ashley ·
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    Like Catalina said, I'm sure you are being way more harsh on your appearance than you need to be. I'm sure you will look gorgeous! If you wanted to, you could always take pictures later on with your man in your dress and tux/suit? But don't cancel the wedding...I think you would regret it.

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  • Marisa-in-Love
    Master July 2014
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    Don't cancel. Don't stress. If everyone close to you is telling you that you look beautiful, trust their judgement. We are our own worst enemies Smiley smile

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  • Barbara
    Master September 2014
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    I agree with the other ladies that your brain is probably seeing something worse than what is actually there :/ I wish women weren't so hard on them themselves!

    But, even if you are not, what's the worst thing that will happen? You'll have pictures that may embarrass you for a little while, but eventually you'll get over it and just remember the day as the day you married the love of your life. There is a saying--every bride is beautiful-- and it is true!! No matter how goofy your smile looks, it will be better than a frown! Try not to let it get you down and enjoy the time! No one will be judging you, and like Ashley suggested, you could always do a portrait session later down the line (a lot of couples do it on their 1-year anniversary).

    **big hugs!!**

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  • tiki monkey-buns
    VIP March 2014
    tiki monkey-buns ·
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    Have your non-paralyzed side more prominent in photos. Did you hire a professional photographer? If so, see if they can fix the closeups in Photoshop or something. They can work wonders with angles and editing.

    Although, as the other ladies have said, it's probably not as bad as it seems to you. Have you done this procedure before? What made you decide to do it so close to the wedding?

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  • rusticbride
    Master May 2014
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    You still have some time... try not to stress about it because stress is the devil.

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  • Jackie
    Master October 2014
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    Really you're bitching and looking for sympathy because of something you brought upon yourself?

    If you're really "dreading" your wedding day because you don't feel beautiful you should do a bit of soul searching and/or growing up.

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  • **Mrs.Smedstad
    Super October 2014
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    Don't sweat it. That's something most women do, myself too. Don't over think things, thats what my problem is. I think way too much about certain things. I'm sure everything will be fine Smiley smile


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  • Allyson
    Master May 2014
    Allyson ·
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    I'm sure you have put a lot of time and money into your wedding, and your closest friends and family are coming to celebrate with you. While you may be worried about how you look, it's likely no one else will notice. If you're able to look past it and focus on what an exciting and happy event it is, people will remember the love they felt on your wedding day.

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  • SandM
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    Agree with everything the other ladies said. Look at it this way, it could be a lot worse. You've said that others don't notice it. I know it's hard to believe them when you can physically feel the difference but I think you need to at least try and believe them. Stressing about it isn't going to do any good. So sit back, have a glass of wine or two or three and enjoy the fact that you are marrying your FH!

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  • kaylarae
    Master April 2015
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    I'm sure it's gonna be a wonderful day and I know you will be a beautiful bride! Just remember what the day is for and everything else won't be as important

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  • kristenann
    Master October 2014
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    If that happened to me, I would seriously feel the same way. Did the doctor tell you anything that you could do to help, maybe massaging that area? I also like what Tiki Monkey said- talk with your photographer and let her know your concerns. She can photograph you from a different angle or even use photoshop magic. Please don't cancel your wedding. You are honestly a beautiful girl and will be an even more beautiful bride.

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  • Mrs.G
    VIP August 2014
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    Im not trying to be mean, but did you get the memo not trying anything a week before your wedding? i feel so bad for you, but seriously dont cancel think of all the time blood sweat and tears and wait money you put into your big day. Im sure your FH is going to love you no matter what. Dig your head say a couple of prayers and maybe everything will be fine before next week. Try to cheer up im sure nothing anyone says to you is going to make you feel better but remember its one day and as long as you are marrying the love of your life nothing else should matter. Smiley smile

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  • Koch Bride
    Master September 2014
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    Looking at your picture, I have no idea why you would have gotten botox. You didn't need it. I'm sorry this is happening so close to your wedding but I think you need to relax.

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  • Ashlee
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    If it was me also i would be worrying too!! have you called the doctor? is there anything they can do? dont cancel the wedding your gorgeous, but i know how hard it is bc you want everything to be perfect. i hope your doctor can fix this since he is the one who did it!

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  • Fit Bride
    VIP August 2014
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    Why does this sound like it's straight out of a movie? I immediately thought of Bride Wars and The Wedding Planner when I read this. I don't understand when brides go through drastic measures to alter their looks for their wedding :-/ . I hope you are able to fix the issue before your big day, I would be too.

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  • OhHeyItsIna
    Master November 2014
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    Is this real life? I DEMAND A SELFIE ONE STAR TROLL BRIDE!

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  • ItsGoodToBeKing
    Master February 2014
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    It can take up to 2wks for Botox to set in, sometime having a paralyzing affect until then, when did you get it done??

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  • Y
    Super October 2014
    Yancie ·
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    I agree with everyone. I think you are stressing yourself too much. Am sure everything will be back to normal before your wedding. You will look amazing. Hugs. We are here for you. Please don't cancel it will be an amazing day for you and FH.

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