Turning into a snob!

I'm all for some etiquette but I'm more about the love of the couple and the fact that they chose to include someone in their day. Happy fun love! Everyone is entitled to do things the way the see fit and the way they can afford. Not to mention that not everyone gets on wedding forums to figure out how to do things "properly". Some people just want to enjoy their day with their loved ones.

I agree! Although the gap between the ceremony and reception is very common in Catholic weddings and they aren't typically hosted. Usually it's because the church ceremony has to be so early so everyone can be done with pictures and out before the daily mass starts.

Mine is a 2 hour gap. Unfortunately there is nothing I can do about it. However; I've been to many before like it and it's never bothered me.

My brother got married about 6 years ago and he was flat out telling people they wanted cash. They were in a bitter custody fight with her ex and that is why they essentially got married on short notice. Never mind the fact I was pissed at him and hated her for treating my nephew like crap in MY house. I found it to be rude and it ticked me off. They got a gift card to BBB and I almost did not go to the sham of a wedding. I went out of respect for my Dad who wanted to see his family all "happy in one place". I was not about to gift them money for her battle. Asking for money is about the rudest thing you can do in my book.

I feel the same way! But I also think I care too much about what others think sometimes...

Oh, after 2 weddings of my own, and those of my 4 girls I can get pretty snobby. But I have to be honest - intent is everything. I went to a wedding where the bride dropped 4 grand for her precious gerbera daisies. I had to pay 4.00 for my diet coke at the bar. Yeah, in my mind I was one snarky bitch on that one.

Another wedding I went to was a very young couple, no parents involved, not a lot of money. They tried to do too much with too little money. Their intent was nothing but gracious, they just didn't know any better. I'm not snobby about that one at all.

When my girls' got married they knew one of the few golden rules to get access to my checkbook was that their guests would not be reaching for their wallets for anything. Not to tip the bar, not to pay for a drink. Here is the budget sweetie - how do you want to make that work for what you want? 3 of the 4 served alcohol and the tip was our responsibility, not the guests. No tip jar!!

It is really easy to start picking things apart after you get around the world of proper etiquette. My parents were manners freaks and that only came behind breathing because of the physical necessity. If someone is trying to treat me well and they make a mistake and don't know something, it is incumbant upon me to be gracious guest and keep my trap shut, while remember how hard they are trying.

But if you drop 4 grand on daisies and I have to pay for my diet coke, all bets are off.

Nope...I was a snob before I started planning a wedding.

@Maltese - I was a snob before too and it's just getting worse!

I notice things I wouldn't have before spending time on here. They drive me nuts, but I won't let myself say anything.

I have one friend getting married in July. There's a FOUR HOUR gap between ceremony time and cocktail hour. There's even a note saying we're not allowed to show up at the venue until the end of that 4 hours due to other weddings. It's in a small town in the middle of nowhere, and to add to it, there's a festival going on that makes the town complete insanity. We're likely going to be equally as tacky and skip the ceremony. She's inviting 350 people, so I highly doubt she'll miss us at the ceremony.

Then, I have another friend getting married in November. She's basically copying my wedding theme and decor. She's planning her own bridal shower (on Pinterest), and she wants it ice cream cone themed. Um, how old are we? Sigh.

Just commenting @BringonMay that I would be all about an ice cream themed shower. Ice cream is my favorite food.