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Um...wow happy Monday everyone! haha

Slipknot? Yes, I'm judging. On many levels. This is the craziest thing I have heard in a long time. Good luck.

I don't think you should move your wedding because your MOH has a birthday party to go to, at this point it's your MOH who has to choose which event she'd rather be at, but hopefully she'll inform you with enough notice to find a new MOH. I'll be honest, if I were MOH for my friend I would skip my nephews party - he'll have plenty of parties, best friend will hopefully only marry once, but that's just my opinion. In the end it's her choice.

Before your MOH knew about you possibly changing the date, did her sister already have the birthday party planned? I feel like my sister would ask me my plans before planning the bday party and if i were MOH, i would be like sorry sis, cant make it. And even if she knew the possibility of the changed date- I would make the wedding a priority. Its not like shes a guest at your wedding. this whole thing is weird to me

Word......

She doesn't need to find a new MOH if hers backs out. That's ridiculous.

If you MOH was throwing the kids birthday party then maybe she'd have some say, but it sounds like she's not throwing the party.

those throwing the party aren't going to look at your wedding day as a factor in it.

as for changing the day of the birthday party, that's more involved than you may realize! soon as kids start nursery school (or sometimes before) they need their own datebooks to keep track of their play dates and other obligations!

if it was me and you have another friend that you would maybe like to have a BM, I'd go ahead and ask her. then if they can both be in the wedding you have two bridesmaids- nothing wrong with that. then if the BM needs to step up, fine too!

I personally think that worrying about keeping a bridal party even is more trouble than it's worth. good luck!

I don't understand any of this.

Rescheduling a wedding for a concert is weird. Can you go to the concert at a different venue as part of your honeymoon?

Planning a kid's birthday party so far in advance is also weird. That's 4 months away!

LOL. Well, obviously I should never have asked a question on this forum to begin with. I don't find it that hard to fathom but maybe that is just me. I have no vendors. EVERYTHING is DIY. The concert is to kick off the start of our honeymoon. I guess it will all work out in the end. Thank all you lovely ladies for all your negativity, judgement, lack of compassion and forth coming advice. I can now truly see what kind of place (forum) this is. I hope everyone's wedding is a wonderful, special occasion for each and every one of you. Individuality is not something that is encouraged here, huh? Well that's cool, I guess. Enough said.

Oh good God. Yes, we're all such horrible people.

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Jokes aside, you dont have a vendor for photography or catering?

ETA: Meme... couldnt help myself.

I... I would rewrite your bucket list.

I'll just leave this here.

I'm sorry you think we're mean, I'm even sorrier that Slipknot is on your bucket list.

Am I the only one that has never heard of slipknot?

It's one step down from Insane Clown Posse.

To add to Emmy, I'm sorry that Slipknot is SO important that you move your once in a lifetime wedding for. A band that tours yearly and always has different band members so it's not even really a band.

So, if I'm understanding this correctly, if you push the wedding back to the original start time, would your MOH attend both events in the same day? Or would she still have to choose?

I would just let her know that you want her to be there, but you'll understand if she has a family commitment. Let her decide, and if she does step down I wouldn't try to replace her. Especially since it doesn't sound like there's anyone else you would want to ask anyway- just get married without attendants.

Or, second option. If she says she can attend both events in the same day (provided they're not at the same time), then you could move the ceremony start time back to your original plan. You just have to decide which is more important- having your MOH there, or being able to attend the concert.

ETA: bah, took too long to post. Whatever. OP, I hope you're still reading because I really was trying to give real advice.

So you ask for peoples opinions, but get offended when people don't share the same opinion as you? Do you truly want others opinons; or are you just looking for others to say that you're right? I believe forums aren't meant for the latter.