True Colors come out....

I guess if nothing is set in stone and you don't have anyone expecting a certain date (vendors, friends, family, BP) and it seems like a very intimate if not casual event then It is completely up to you to change the date. OR you could have your honeymoon as traveling to a couple of cities or the next city Slipknot will play in. If it's something that important to you.

What sort of wedding are you having if you have no vendors but have a MOH (that you don't care if she's there or not), and you can change your whole wedding timeline around BUT you're still getting married in a church? I was envisioning a courthouse wedding, but then why have a MOH and you mentioned the church.

If you've informed your guests of a date, considering changing it for a concert ("once in a lifetime" or not.) is really disrespectful of your guests time.

MOH needs to decide where to spend her time, that's her business. Not having a bridal party isn't the end of the world.

Inviting slipknot to the wedding would solve this!

Or just email their manager and politely ask them to switch dates.

I'm not sure how making sure your "close friend" is at your wedding to be MOH, like planned, makes someone materialistic. Yet, you are willing to have a concert change the time. Figure out your real priorities and go from there. I wouldn't just stand someone up in her place either, especially if you didn't even want them in your wedding to begin with.

If you don't have anything set in stone, maybe you can move your wedding date? That way you can enjoy the concert rather than worry you have to leave the wedding to go to a concert. And it would fix your MOH problem.

I'm sorry, what kind of parent plans a 3rd birthday party 4 months in advance? And she can miss the party. Jeez.

This just seems like a joke to me. If it's true I think you need to sort out you're priorities.

What have I just read....

You were debating changing your wedding date for a concert?! I know if my favourite band was touring on same day I would just see it is unlucky coincidence but oh well. I have artists on my bucket list but NONE would make me even think about moving the wedding. Slipknot will tour again, your wedding literally is a once in a lifetime event. You have out of towners coming aswell and that makes it even worse that you were debating that.

Your MOH needs to make a choice, and whilst its stupid that a kids party is planned so far in advance, you told her you were probably changing the date, so she made herself available. Thats not her fault and if she sees your wedding as more important she will attend.

If I was your MOH and knew you'd change the date for a concert, I'd consider attending my nephew's birthday, especially if it's a milestone birthday. You've given the impression to her at least that the date isn't set in stone and you're willing to consider changing it too.

Do you know the band personally? And if so, are they retiring or has a dehabillitating disease and this is their final performance ever? Cause in that case it still seems unfathomable to move a wedding (date or time) to attend a concert but at least there might possibly be a grain of logic somewhere.

But yes, in answer to your actual question, you both are being ridiculous. You are insane for adjusting your WEDDING for the concert of a band that had been touring since the nineties, especially one that isn't even the real line-up and is touring with replacements. They will have another concert and probably by then settled the band.

Your MOH made a commitment, although sticking with committed dates and times doesn't seem to be a thing with your group, so she should not go to the birthday party. He's turning 3, not 16 or 18 or 21. It's not one of the milestones and really, we all know the baby won't even remember she was there.

You asked if you were being ridiculous and since very few of us here can empathize with moving our weddings for concerts, it's likely that you're not going to get validation that you are right.

If you have people flying in for a child's birthday party, it's reasonable to plan it this far ahead. Regardless, it's happening on that date, and maybe the parents of that kid like to plan ahead of time. Who knows? But it's possible that the MOH wants to see her extended family, not just attend her nephews birthday party.

I don't understand how moving the date and time around doesn't affect people since you said that you do have out of towners coming in. And who is cleaning up for you? Is this at a restaurant?

I can't.. I just... what?

I call troll.

I needed this to start my Monday off right.

How can you be considering changing your wedding when you only have 4 months to go? Wait How do you not have any vendors with only 4 months out? How is this real?

Wait...so are you having your wedding and then going to the concert right after? This is bizarre.

To answer your question, it would be ridiculous to ask your MOH's sibling to change the birthday party for her kid. Your MOH is going to have to choose.

...I'm sorry I won't even make it until page 2. Yes. You are being ridiculous - to ask someone to move a child's birthday party & to change your wedding over a concert. Slipknot will tour again, unfortunately for some, fortunately for you.

ETA: Lets start Monday with a meme.

I'm so confused. Key points: concerts do not outrank weddings, period. Even if it was The Beatles, Live from the Afterlife. I had Garth Brooks on my bucket list but if I was planning a wedding, I'd just go see him at another venue. Trying to have a wedding, reception and attend a concert all in 1day is insane, no matter who the band is or how old you are. You made noises that you would move the date-it stands to reason that your MOH would make other plans. Not her fault and she doesn't have to explain herself. You've stated that dates aren't important to you so why not just move the whole darn day? Otherwise you will be totally stressed and likely project that into others. Your rant is unfounded and I'm thinking sympathy will be hard to come by.

Due to you advising your MOH that your date will change due to a concert...YES you are being ridiculous for asking her to change her plans.