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Katherine, on September 25, 2017 at 9:02 PM

Ugh. I've posted about my monster-in-law before. I'm getting married next Saturday and she just exploded again, this time because I told her teenage daughter that her boyfriends parents weren't invited to the wedding. (Her boyfriend isn't even invited, but welcome as her +1.) Seriously, why would I invite his family of 7 when I have family that didn't even invite because we hit our max guest count? I've never met them. FMIL has only met them once. My sisters in-laws aren't invited. Why would they be invited? But somehow this makes me an "ungrateful spoiled brat" and I'm too controlling because I eat organic and use fragrance- & dye- free soap (because I'm allergic to most everything else). So now her daughter (FSIL) isn't coming, and withdrew as a bridesmaid. FMIL isn't coming and cancelled the rehearsal dinner. And I don't even want to go to my own wedding. Really regretting not eloping.

Anyone else dealing with a crazy FMIL?

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Devoted June 2018
Mrs. Haug · on September 26, 2017 at 10:52 PM
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Wow she sound like a lovely woman. I would move on and have the wedding anyways. It's not about them it's about you and your FH
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Dedicated October 2018
Vanessa · on September 26, 2017 at 10:57 PM
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Yes Jorocka!! I'm with ya!
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Super September 2019
Will & Tiara · on September 26, 2017 at 11:28 PM
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Katherine, I do think that this person is making you miserable. You can't give her power to do that. She should be happy for the both of you and that you are a family. Do what you have to do. Send invites to those ONLY ON YOUR LIST. When she behaves inappropriately, you both tell her as diplomatically as possible that you appreciate her input and will give it thought, but you cannot tolerate her outbursts. At the end of the day, it's both of you and your hubby's decisions - not hers. You both need to be a team when dealing with her. Refrain from having any separate conversations with her; let her talk to FH and keep her out of the loop. As she is paying for the rehearsal dinner - if you feel you must have it, offer to pay for 1/2 of it, this way she won't throw it in your face. The less you have to do with her the better. She will ruin your life, and if you let her, she'll ruin your marriage.
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Rosa Lee · on September 27, 2017 at 8:12 AM
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Sounds just like My FH's mom.
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