To wear or not to where?!

I would find it very disrespectful not to wear it. Especially on a drunken night and especially during your bachelorette party. Is this the only night of the year that you'll be drinking? Is your ring not the right size that it will just fall off. Fact is that if it fits you correctly there should be no reason at all that you would loose it, drunk or not.

Would you be ok if your FH took off his wedding ring if he went out for one of his friends bachelor parties, for "fear" of loosing it. I'm sure you wouldn't...

What are you planning on doing that is so unresponsible of you? Is it any different than another night out drinking? Sounds a little sketchy to me if you are thinking of not wearing it...

Ok ladies, I certainly see your point. It's valid! No, I'm not planning being blacked out of my mind, lol. The idea of wearing something that costs so much money makes me nervous sober or with alcohol on my system. As it is i dont even like tp go to ceryain areas in y city becuse who knows, i might get robbed! Maybe I'm still too new to being engaged to realize probably nothing's going to happen.

If I felt nervous in my city sober, I wouldn't even think of getting drunk there. Plus, I feel it would be pretty easy to avoid those areas you do think are unsafe. Just have a plan ahead of time on where you are going. Plus, I feel that robbers would tend to attack someone who is alone, not a whole pack of women out celebrating. I don't think you really need to worry.

Plus, I would feel not wearing the ring would be very disrespectful.

Is your ring insured? Hopefully it is!

I really appreciate all of your honesty. Yes the ring is insured. I won't be in my city for my party...we're going to San Diego. Again, I guess I'm just a nervous nelly. Being disrespectful certainly isn't my intention....wearing something of such a high value is still new to me. I don't own jewelry worth any more than about $20-30, lol. I suppose if everyone has safely celebrated with their rings, I will be no different. Thank you for the reassurance...kind of!

My Aunt is the same way. I personally do not understand it. She has a 'decoy' ring for when they go to Vegas or if she knows she will be in a bad part of town. She will take it off and put it in her pocket if she knows its not a good area and she has to get out. Personally, my ring was costly as well and it has never been a thought in my mind. People really do not pay as much attention as you think they do. Unless you are walking around flaunting it saying look at my ring, blah blah blah, chances of someone really paying attention that much are very slim. I also agree, if your ring is falling off too easily, you should go to get it re-sized. Our sales rep said that you should have to wiggle to get the ring off and trust me, you WILL notice someone doing that even if you are plastered.

If you aren't used to wearing expensive jewelry (I am not) I can see why you might be concerned. If you think you might worry about it all night, get a fake. I would just explain why you sometimes wear the fake to the FH so he understands.

This is purposely why I picked out a non-diamond ring under $300. I just don't want to be wearing that much $$$ on my hand.

I understand where you are coming from. I feel the same way because it is expensive and most brides get a little drunker than usual. I guess we should all take that into consideration and not be fall on your butt drunk. If your ring is insured and you won't be in a sketchy place by yourself you will be fine. I didn't think you were being disrespectful at all....

I have a "stand in" ring myself =) We are having a DW and not taking my e ring/wedding bands with us to Hawaii. Kudos to you for thinking ahead and YES I would buy a "stand in" (fake) ring. I find no disrespect when you are thinking of wearing a ring on your left hand, now if you were saying that you weren't going to wear a ring at all I would think you were being disrespectful.

I think if you are worried about it cause of the cost, buy one from avon or something same size fake diamond, that you can wear. As long as you have somehing on your engagement finger you are clear. Let FH know you are worried about this and maybe ask him if certain ones look like yours from teh Sears catelog or something.

I agree with the other ladies buy a fake one from Claire's they are $10 bucks and don't look that fake!

I also have a fake ring that I wear when we go places such as traveling I don't wear it I leave it in the home safe if anything were to happen to it I would cry.

It's up to you if you are scared something might happened to it put a fake one on

Ok, thank you very much, ladies!! I really appreciate hearing that are people out there that have had the same concerns. I don't consider myself an irresponsible person, but it's a crazy world out there, and you just never know what might happen. I don't plan to make a habit out of wearing a fake diamond look alike, lol, but I think in this sitation it would give me some piece of mind. I will definitely check out Claire's! Thanks!! Glad to know others have done the same!

I would definitely wear something if you are concerned about your e-ring and don't want to wear it. I can understand your concern if you are going to a shady area. When I take the subway really late, sometimes I turn it inside so it looks like I have a plain band on. When FH proposed, he actually proposed with a fake ring because we were out of the country and he didn't want to bring the real one with him!

If it's insured and fitted well I would just wear it. It's not like the state department is issuing travel advisories for personal safety in San Diego.

It does take some getting used to, I was never a jewelry person either. I just don't see the point in having nice things and not using/wearing them. My grammy had a few "stunt" rings and kept her real diamonds hidden in a hole that my grandpa dug into their bedroom wall. They would have been safer on her finger - if we hadn't had a very honest/thorough home inspector after grandpa died, they would have disappeared forever!

I wear my rocks everywhere. Travel, bars, concerts, music festivals, sleeper trains, in the city, out of the country. Only exceptions being the beach/pool (occasionally), activities where it might get lost/damaged like rock climbing/skiing, or places where it would just be inappropriate (volunteering at a homeless shelter.) I've never had a problem or felt unsafe.

Mens wedding rings don't cost nearly as much as a woman's engagement ring though. $10,000 vs $800.... Entirely different comparison. Plus, even if she was careful not to lose it, she could still get mugged. And what about men not having to wear engagement rings at all?? If FH isn't wearing a ring at his own bachelor party, then why does FW have to wear one to her own bachelorette?