to sweetheart table or not?

We are planning to have my MOH and her guest and his BM with his guest at the sweetheart table, and the rest of the attendant with their guests.

Both my sister and bridesmaid when they got married had sweetheart tables. They only sat there when they ate, and circled the reception socializing with their guests the rest of the time. I don't think its tacky. I think we are going to do that as well.

We're doing the full head table. But since I'm doing a seating chart, I'll also save a seat for each person to sit with their spouse at the table later. (Their spouses will know other people there, so I'm not worried about them sitting with strangers/feeling left out.) I'd like the WP to sit with us for dinner and through the toasts and such, but once the dancing starts, IDK where they sit.

We are doing the sweetheart table as well. Two of my BM are from OOT and their husbands don't know a soul. Also, my sisters hubby is antisocial and my brothers gf doesn't know any of the family. I don't want any of them to feel uncomfortable. For us it's a smart choice and I don't think it's tacky.

@ Danielle... I didn't even think of that... saving a seat for the attendants next to their guests....good thing you mentioned that...

I also figured that they would be seated for the formal stuff...and then once the dancing start they would be up dancing together :\

O I just thought of one reason why the head table would work better for me.... less tables...less centerpieces...

I guess I am from mars... I dont know what a sweet heart table is????

Most of my attendants don't have husbands/wives. Also, FS and I don't like the look of the sweetheart table at our venue, and we also don't want to be sitting up there all by ourselves lol. So we will have a head table. If they were married, or had kids, it might be different.

I think it's personal preference. I don't think either way is tacky. Maybe his mom is just super old school?

She is super old school....I agree... I don't want us sitting up there by ourselves either

We are having Wedding Party table. Where me, FH, BRM, BM, GM, RB.

We had a sweetheart table, must admit it, I wanted to sit with our guests who were having so much fun and we felt sort of out of it stuck on our own. luckily it wasn't for long.,

@Karen B. a sweetheart table is a small table (visible to the other tables in the room) for the Bride and Groom. It's used as an alternative to a head table where the entire BP is seated.

We're having a head table but are reserving seats at a near by table (not the family/parents table) for the guests of the attendants. We did get lucky in that my MdOH and the GM just started dating so that's 2 guest I won't have to worry about paying for! lol

Gotta be honest, FS and I are not big fans of the Sweetheart Table. We'll have a traditional Head Table and seat the dates/spouses of the BP with people they know. My experience at weddings is that once the dinner is over that everyone switches tables and mingles anyway.

I also don't want us to be up there by ourselves... I will make an effort to seat the guests of the BP either with ppl they know or together... :\

We are doing a Sweetheart table. we only have a best man who is my 12 year old son so it was an easy decision. Last wedding I was at the bride and groom barely sat down, they spent more time chatting. Plus we are not having a sit down meal, but a buffet spreadout in the room so people have to get up and mingle somewhat.

I have 2 MOH, 6 BM, 6 GM and 1 BM.... large party

We are having a sweetheart table and then two big tables right beside our little round table so as to have our little table for ourselves but also be surrounded with the wedding party and their spouses.

We had a sweethearts table and I loved it. We had the whole night to socialize with guests. it was nice to just sit for a lil bit with my husband as we ate.

I can't imagine going to a wedding with my fiancé and not sitting together. Seriously, don't do that to your bridal party and their spouses/dates. These people bought ugly dresses for you. Let them sit with the people they love. They're not your window dressing.