Tipping to assigned Day of Coordinator

Also: this lawyer HAS received gifts for great service, or from repeat clients around the holidays. We are also a service industry. JS

Megan, I would thought you would have described yourself as a professional, not in a service industry. Oh well.

A lunch, a referral, yes. Even flowers. An envelope with cash? Not professional.

We serve our clients. I don't think that excludes us as being professionals. Or maybe I'm wrong? I always aim to please my clients, same as I aimed to please my customers when I ran a cash register. Make them want to come back, no?

I certainly neither expect nor rely on tips/gifts of thanks but it is nice to get a special little thanks from a client. Even if it is just a jar of homemade jam (actually, that one was my favorite. Damn delicious). But some have given cash in a card with a thank you note. Would be rude to reject their appreciation.

I really doubt anyone at Skadden Arps or Sullivan and Cromwell gets a cash tip.

I think it would be bizarre to for a lawyer at most firms to get a cash tip.

I don't mean to butt in on your post, but our DOC was included in the "startup price" we paid for our venue. Venue was 6k, the DOC price (we didn't pay, it was included) is $1,000. Should I still tip her or what? I didn't consider this beforehand.

Yeah, because I'm gonna tell the farmer-landowner that just received an additional $50,000 in his gas lease because of my negotiations that his $100 in a thank you card insults me because I'm too professional for that kind of thing.

Guess this rural Pennsylvania attorney working for the little guy is unprofessional. Fine by me.

Back to the point: thank people who ought to be thanked and you won't be considered a rude ass. Generally.

Megan, a $100. Not much different than taking someone out to lunch Some vendors here want more.

But the language you use does not impress me. A thank you is fine. Language like you use is not fine.

Not to change the subject but...@GreeneBunny I've been looking for guidance to help me plan for tipping my bridal attendant and maitre d and I am also getting married on Long Island. My venue didn't give any recommendations for tipping and when I asked they said they leave it to our discretion. I think I'll use your guidelines. Did you get any information about tipping wait staff? I want to plan ahead as much as possible.