Tip jar?

View Quoted Comment I agree. It has long been considered rude to put out a tip jar, as rude as handing over money to your hosts at a dinner would be. And when someone offers to tend bar, or make a cake, or another such thing AS A GIFT , to then collect money for it is a step beyond rude. My gift to the couple is offering them a service for free, then collecting from all the guests? What kind of gift is that?

We made it crystal-clear to our venue that there should be absolutely no tip jar on the bar at all...that we would appropriately tip the servers. We did, however, tell the venue that the bartenders were welcome to accept any tips offered...I know when we go to a wedding my husband always tips the bartenders whether there is a jar there or not, but we didn't want any guest to feel as if they 'should' tip.

I say give him a jar to keep tips in, but don't set it on top of the bar, have him keep it within reach behind the bar. If a guest wants to tip and asks, he can lift up the jar for them to put their tip in! (That way he's not touching the money either if he doesn't have to.)

View Quoted Comment Jennifer I think that’s a fantastic idea!! Thank you.

I think any tip jar, no matter how discrete, is wrong. Others will see it. You do not ask people to open up their wallet at your wedding. Pay your nephew or not, but do not expect your guests to.

View Quoted Comment Please do not listen to the people commenting that have never worked in the service industry before. These people live off of tips and ita honestly disgraceful that people would post on here saying not to have a way for giving up a friday or Saturday weekend evening working a event as an opportunity to make money. Theres also a sleek way to have another decorative accessory decor type thing to add to a bar top. These people need the money especially during these times. Comimg from a 20 year experience bartender. In 2017 I also went to almost 10 weddings and having a tip jar makes it less awkward and a visual for people to take care of people that are takimg care of you.

Servers and bartenders are treated horribly in our society and people are saying no tip jar on here ?


Yes have him leave a tip jar. He needs to be tipped by you and your guest because that’s the polite thing to do. No one will even remember of there was a jar there anyways at the end of the night.

I also want to add that servers and bartenders live off of tips so it is very sad that people are saying no tip jar. THIS IS HOW THEY MAKE A LIVING