Tip jar?

I mean I wouldn't only bc it's my wedding and my guest . I would want my guest not feeling that in order to drink you have to give someone a tip...its a wedding not a bar ...ijs its your day whichever way you feel works....

I may be in the minority but no to the tip jar. Civilized people will tip, please don't out out a jar.

People usually tip for drinks without the tip jar. Personally I think it looks a bit tacky at a wedding.

I am team tip jar! Do something cute. People don’t always tip unless they see a jar! He’s
Working and deserves tips just like any other bartender. If you were to have it at a venue or hire one they would have one.

No tip jar. The couple covers the top. Guests shouldn’t open their wallets at a wedding.

View Quoted Comment This isn’t always true. I’ve never seen a tip jar at a wedding I’ve attended. We always tip without it, but also every couple I know has tipped the bartender themselves.

You’re responsible for the tip, not your guests.

I would do no tip jar too

I agree that the hosts should be taking care of the bartender. If people still choose to tip on top of that, they won't need a tip jar to do so. And they shouldn't be pressured to pay him (which is what setting out a tip jar would do).

There's been a tip jar at every wedding I've attended. I think it's understood that it's not required, but welcome for exceptional service. Just don't make it an obvious tip jar (avoid a giant TIPS sigh), and make sure to tip him the same amount you would even if there wasn't a jar.

As a long time bartender of 20 years and tending many of weddings its 100% appropriate. You always tip bartenders no matter what. Especially when guests dont pay for drinks!

All of our experienced wedding vendors involved in our planning process said no tip jar and that we as the hosts should tip our bartenders directly. At most weddings we've been to we've tipped the bartenders directly for at least some of our drinks regardless of whether or not a jar was out, but the consensus we got was for the type of event we wanted to host that it just wasn't appropriate.

A backyard wedding might be more casual and your guests may expect to tip, but I'd recommend keeping the tip jar very discrete if you have one at all. I think it would be better to not have a tip jar and plan to provide a generous tip to the bartender yourself (even if it is a relative offering the service as a gift). If your guests want to tip on top of that they can just hand your nephew a tip directly, and that ends up being a bonus for him. I feel that a tip jar signifies that a tip is more or less expected and puts pressure for guests to have cash on hand. As a wedding guest, I'd prefer not to feel pressure to make sure the bartender has a good night, and as a host, it not a responsibility I want to pass on to my guests either.

I have never seen a tip jar at a wedding before...usually the couple/host is expected to cover the tip, and I think it's tacky to ask guests to open up their wallets at a wedding.

I would never feel comfortable with any of my guest spending money for food or drinks on my party 🙈

View Quoted Comment All the weddings I’ve been to has had a nice jar or vase.

The point of the tip jar is to solicit tips, which I would not want at a wedding. The host(s) should tip the bartender and guests shouldn’t feel obligated to open their wallets. If guests want to give an an additional tip during the event, they’ll do so regardless of whether there’s a jar.

You should be tipping him yourself.

I’ve always thought it’s pretty normal to see a tip jar at weddings!

I am pro tip jar! Our friend, who is also a bartender irl, volunteered his time at my sister’s wedding and will at mine. We even mentioned bringing cash on our website to really make it worth his while.

I'm with the no tip jar team. Like others have said, the host is responsible for tipping for the services rendered. But my personal reason is my fiance and I went to a wedding with a tip jar, felt pressure to tip (even though we always tip) and the drinks were terrible. We only had 1 drink each the whole night. I mean drinks were disgusting. Then we went to a wedding with no tip jar, no pressure to tip, drinks were amazing so we tipped.