Throwing my FH a bachelor party?

My question is, how involved can I be? If it was up to me I'd plan a kick ass party (I know exactly what he would love to do cause he's told me) and just tell all his friends they better show up! Ha. Or maybe I can talk to a few of his friends (they are just as good of my friends as they are his) and let them know that someone needs to step up? I just don't like seeing him upset :/

If his good guy friends are also your good guys friends, then it might be ok to mention he wants one. I wouldn't necessarily tell them they have to step up though. It's their choice of they throw him one or not, but since he is one of the first of his friends to get married, it might not have crossed their minds.

One of his guy friends should set it up. you should have little to no involvement in this.

What does it mean to be "wrapped up in dating and proposing"?

Does your FH want a destinatination party or something elaborate like that?

If not, his friends should just plan a fun guys night out type of thing.

@RJmargo Yeah I think I might just mention it. Something like "Do you guys have any plans for Majids bachelor party I need to be aware of?" Maybe that will be enough to spark something.

@Angel What I mean by that is his two best friends are currently planning proposals, one in November and one in December. Neither have been dating very long, 6 months and 7 months. So they are both still very much in the "lovey dovey, cant get enough of each other, have to be with each other all the time, don't really think about anything else" phase. Not that after 2 years FH and I aren't like that sometimes But I hope you know what I mean! They are just wrapped up starting their own marriage journeys.

FH would love a weekend away at a cabin in the woods with shooting and offroading. He's not really a guys night out type of guy. He would have no fun just going to a bar. But I'll leave that up to them. He'll just be happy that they thought of him.

It could be the weekend away thing that is throwing people off. Some people love to get away and others do not enjoy it at all. That is why when you are planning a group event you really have to know your group if you want an away trip. I see now harm in throwing some ideas out there if you are close with his friends. Sometimes guys are not the best at planning and if they are all in that age group (21) then they might not have the best planning experience as you mentioned. If given some local ideas, like golf, paintball, dinner and drinks, go-carts. There is a lot they can do just in a one day get together that is not bar hopping.

No one knows about the weekend away but me so I don't think that's the issue. He's totally fine with anything (other then bar-hopping, ha). He'd love paintball. I'll bring it up all cool and ninja like.

DH and I were also the first in our friend group to get married (both at 22). All his friends didn't really know what to do either. I'm sure talking to his friends will go over well though, especially because they are all about to get engaged and the idea of bachelor parties gets a lot more exciting when they realize if they throw your FH one, they'll likely get one thrown for them too.

I've (somewhat) jokingly offered to throw my FH a bachelor party based on Pinterest boards I made last year when he jokingly agreed to a superhero or star wars birthday party, before deciding we were too busy, and he was turning 30 so he didn't really need a theme anyway (but there would have been "edible ewok" gummy bears!).

Maybe keep an eye on groupon and suggest he ask his friends about doing a day of laser tag/paintball gunning/escape room/whatever?

So I was texting my BF about this situation, who also happens to be dating FH's BF, just asking if she'd heard anything from the guys about a party. She said that her BF would love to, it's just a lack of monies issue. Which I kinda figured it was. So I let her know that everything that he really wants to do would be super cheap but he'd be happy with anything. She said she's going to pass the info along. I'm glad I said something. I just couldn't stand the thought of FH being hurt by it. With his two closest friends getting married just a few months after us, I could just see a situation arise where they get killer bachelor parties and his was forgotten.

Yay! I'm glad it's most likely getting planned.

I say go ahead. My husband had a best man but he was in medical school so was extremely busy so I helped and basically did everything for him. I booked the hotel, bought tickets to a cubs game, organized food to be catered to the hotel, and gave them bar options. The only thing I didn't do was show up haha.

Honestly I would let him throw his own if it doesn't work out. I just cant picture men caring about etiquette and while he's not in the room saying behind his back "OMG he is throwing his own bachelor party, how tacky!" lol

Yay I am glad you passed along the information to her. Hopefully something will get planned for him. Even some thing small and inexpensive is better than nothing and feeling forgotten.