Thoughts on social media blackout

The reason people are being critical is because this is very unreasonable. Sure, ask for an unplugged ceremony. But to ask for a blackout just doesn't make any sense. If you really want that private of an event, than elope. As soon as you start inviting people, your desire for a blackout goes away. You don't get to dictate what people do with their personal social media accounts and electronic devices.

As others have stated, in the most kind way to put it, no one cares about you or your wedding except yourself and close friends/family. What is an employer or anyone else for that matter going to do with a wedding photo? People get married everyday. I get on Pinterest and see hundreds of wedding pictures every day and I would never be able to recall a specific face or individual if I tried.

I think it's just a little bit excessive. Unplug the ceremony, change your privacy settings. After that, there's nothing else you can do, nor should do.

‘You don't get to dictate what people do with their personal social media accounts and electronic devices.’

When those pictures are of you and you’re not comfortable with that, then I think you can.

Well no, not really. If you invite people to your wedding, barring you forcing them to sign an NDA, they can take pictures of whatever they want and post them if they want.

Unless someone is commercializing off of your photo or misrepresenting you or they are taking that photo in a place like a bathroom stall, you have no expectation of privacy in public.

I'm a very private person as well and the only thing I really want for myself is no photos of my ceremony on social media. I feel that this is the only part of the wedding that is truly about FH and I and I want it for ourselves. I always find it odd to see someone post photos of people kissing for the first time as a married couple all over their fb/instagram/Twitter for people they haven't seen since junior high school to see. I also would never post photos of someone on social media without their permission because I think it's rude AF and I would expect the same respect in return. However, I know I can't dictate what they do so I am having an unplugged ceremony to hopefully prevent that from happening. The rest of the night, I could find a crap less about.

I don't think you can prevent people from posting pictures at your wedding, especially if they aren't photos of you and your FS.

@ elanya Your cousin's wedding sounds horrible. Were they celebrities or just jerks? Taking pictures of a joyous couple is fun for the guests. Why would they take that away from them.

@OP - I still don't understand why you are so worried about employers or other authority figures seeing pics of you at your wedding on FB.

As I said in a pp pics of someone getting smashed at a bar or doing a keg stand or any other inappropriate type of action are much different than a pic your friend takes standing with you and FH at your reception.

Do you plan to get smack down drunk and do something inappropriate? I don't think so but if you do then you need to curb your own behavior not anyone else's.

Employees and authorities don't care about the picture aunt sally took of you at your sweetheart table holding a glass of wine.

People are right, maybe you can request that the don't post a pic of you and your future spouse

Unplugged cer and plugged in rec It does suck when people wants social media attention and have to be the first... in the end you'll be glad you have those pictures.

I take pictures at weddings but I have always felt like it was common courtesy not to post pictures of the bride on social media DURING the wedding unless you asked and she was cool with it or she had already posted a picture. I think you can ask for an unplugged ceremony but agree with PP, you cant really control what other people do.

We are requesting no photos during the ceremony, but I'm sure they will end up on social media before cocktail hour starts. I would agree with changing your settings. Anything anyone tags me in, I have to approve. But that's probably the most control you'll get over it.

If you're worried to the level of someone finding you- then you need to not being having a big old wedding and do something way smaller- like moms/dads and brother and sisters.

You don't get both. It's not realistic.

^ that could work. I still think it's rude though, you can't control when people do or don't post.

Is this about your privacy or about having those not invited finding out about the wedding? Because you know eventually it will get out, right?

I've thought about this (I am not a very private person and FH and I have a very strong social media presence) We are going to ask guests to be considerate and prefer an "Unplugged" ceremony, but as others have said, unless you take everyone's phone when they arrive, people will do what they are going to do. You can share your wishes with family and friends, and hope for the best, but beyond that, it is out of your control.

Meh you can't control people. I would be upset as a guest if you asked me to post nothing. I mean can they post pics of guests or themselves? Where do you draw the line?

As with anything in life, you can control only so much. Use your privacy settings and leave it at that.

Here is what we did, we only had 41 people total: "Please do not announce Mr and Mrs. Blue Velvet's wedding on social media, they wish to do it themselves." People were very cool about it. If asked (and we were asked) - "hey can I put up this rockin' photo of us all dressed up on my FB page?" Reply: "Sure! just don't say it was at our wedding." Announcing our wedding/marriage is our job.