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Thoughts on Sapphires as Engagement Stones?

Jacob, on July 10, 2017 at 10:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 81
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So I actually have not yet proposed but am looking at rings and I really don't want to invest in a diamond ring. To me that's more money to put towards our future, but do I look cheap if I get a white sapphire??? Maybe another colored stone?

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Latest activity by Pamela, on June 25, 2021 at 4:42 AM
  • MMB
    Master January 2017
    MMB ·
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    Has your SO expressed their stone preferences?

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  • K.M.
    Master September 2018
    K.M. ·
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    Look at moissanites! They are absolutely beautiful and they are almost as hard as a diamond so they hold up.


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  • rdlb
    Expert July 2017
    rdlb ·
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    I think this is a question for your future spouse! I think other gems are perfectly suitable and beautiful, but some people prefer a diamond for their engagement ring. What will s/he prefer?

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  • LibraryBelle
    Super January 2018
    LibraryBelle ·
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    I emphatically did not want a diamond. I am ethically against them, and all mined stones, for that matter. I made she FH was fully aware and got him on to brilliantearth.com and miadonna.com. I LOVE my lab created blue sapphire ring. But, like others have said... talk to your FS about this. If she has her heart set on a diamond, she'll be a little disappointed if she doesn't get one.

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  • Ella
    Super August 2017
    Ella ·
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    Something to consider-- my FH wanted to get me sapphires but they were actually more expensive than the typical diamond ring.

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  • svg
    Expert October 2017
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    I would talk to your future fiancé about this. I have an heirloom diamond, but if I didn't, we probably would have gone the gemstone route, and if I'd insisted on a diamond it would have been very small. We looked at photos of setting styles for my heirloom stone together so that he knew what I liked. It's ok to discuss this and get hints!

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  • MrsCohen
    Master July 2017
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    I agree with PP, what input has your FS given? This is a ring they will wear, so they should get some input on the ring that will go on their finger. If they want a gemstone then great! But if they do have their heart set on a diamond ring, that should be honored as well.

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  • Jennifer
    Super May 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    I didn't want my FH to go through the financial stress of getting a diamond. I love morganite so I told him that was my preference! I love my morganite w/ diamond accent ring. There are so many options out there just be sure to talk with your GF. Plus, you can always upgrade down the road Smiley smile

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  • Alicia
    Expert August 2017
    Alicia ·
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    I didn't want a diamond, for reasons you're mentioning, so my fh got me an amethyst and I love it. And three of my girl friends have gotten engaged shortly after me, and none of them have diamonds either! However, you need to make sure your gf is OK with it. Maybe look into morganite? Also make sure if you go with a gemstone you look into the hardness level, to soft of a stone with scratch and need replaced

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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
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    I knew I didn't want a diamond. Sapphire was the engagement stone of choice for many years and then diamonds took over. Also, sapphire is mine and my FH birthstone so it has extra meaning to us. I woild talk to your FS and get an idea of what they would want. Remember, they are the ones who have to wear it for the rest of their lives so they should have something that they will love. Talk with them and try to get an idea of what they want before you even go shopping.

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  • Powers2
    Master April 2018
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    White sapphires don't really look like diamonds. They have a very low refraction (they aren't sparkly).

    A good, high quality blue sapphire can be very pricey, but they are gorgeous. I love to see colored stone engagement rings.

    This is something you need to discuss with your fiancée. If she's expecting a diamond, she might be not happy with a colored stone.

    If you are ready to propose, you are ready to sit down with her and talk about what you both think should be your focus financially.

    Good luck

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  • Powers2
    Master April 2018
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    Op, I have a moissanite, and I love it. I would not want a diamond for several reasons, but I love the look of a clear sparkly stone.

    I am still stressing that if you go that route, that your FS is included in that decision. If she thinks it's s diamond and then finds out otherwise, that is not a good look.

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  • IzziJones
    Super October 2018
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    Hi Jacob! What does your girlfriend like? I happened to love color gems (amethyst is my fav) but I didn't want that for my engagement ring. I have seen some beautiful white morganites that can pass for a diamond look at half the cost. You could always upgrade on an anniversary as a surprise!

    To give you some advice: it's all about your budget. My FH didn't want to spend thousands but he got a better idea when we went looking so he could get more educated in jewelry lol he knew nothing but dreamed up a huge cost. My diamond is .72 carats and cost 1200 including taxes and mounting. Just go look around and they can show you what's available in your budget. Good luck!

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  • Stephannie
    Super December 2017
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    I didn't want a diamond for many reasons, mostly due to my preference of gem stones (preferably blue sapphires). FH knew this but went the champagne diamond route (rose gold with champagne diamond) and I could not love it more. I was extremely surprised and cherish more than anything else. (I am also very sentimental and would've said yes no matter the ring). I think its something you could ask your GF and find out what her preference is.

    I love mossianite because you cannot visually see the difference IMO. They're more budget friendly and truly beautiful.

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  • TheWrightGirl
    Super November 2017
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    OP, I don't think you'll come off as cheap at all, but agree that you should the talk with your SO. Gemstones are beautiful and moissanites are amazing. BTW, I love your ring Olivia. So beautiful

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  • Emily
    Dedicated June 2019
    Emily ·
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    FH got me a sapphire and I love it!! I have gotten nothing but compliments, and several people even told me that they wished they had a gem other than a diamond for theirs because it's more unique!


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  • Tiffany
    Devoted August 2017
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    I believe during the 60s or 70s, it used to be popular to get gemstones instead of diamonds on engagement rings.

    I actually could really care less about diamonds and jewelry in general (not super girly), but I do love the color blue a lot, so my FH got me a ring with a blue topaz which I love and get so many compliments on. I would ask your SO and see how she feels about it though. She may have always dreamed of having a diamond, or maybe she would like to have a color she loves on her finger and be a little different.

    My wedding band will also have blue topaz...though because my engagement ring is rather large I may wear them on different hands when we get married next month. Here's a picture of my 2 rings for example.


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  • Private_User832
    Master August 2017
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    Why don't you talk with your gf and see what she thinks? She'll be the one wearing it every day.

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  • Alison
    Devoted November 2017
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    Here's mine! I knew I didn't want a diamond as the main stone. I actually went with my fiancé to pick it and then was proposed to later. Depends on if you want it to be a total surprise or not. You do you! Don't mind the dry hands and cuticles, lol. People love how unique it is and so me!


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  • LibbyLane
    Super July 2018
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    If you don't want to spend a lot of money, you can also look into vintage rings from places like Etsy. My FH bought my ring, which was made in the 1940s, for $300.


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