Thoughts on a stripper for bachelorette party

You have a right to be upset if you specifically told her you didnt want one. It is not tasteful to me, but that is just my opinion.

If your sister is dead set on getting a stripper - she should be footing the bill. This needs to be discussed with her regardless of how emotional she is.

If she's willing to foot the bill and she wants dancing weiner in her face all night then just leave or go into another room when he shows up.

Pick your battles. This shouldn't be one of them.

I'm with Kimi. Especially if your bridesmaids aren't wanting to chip in- if she wants it so bad, it should be her sole responsibility. The other girls shouldn't have to pay for something you don't even want. Then if she goes through with it, you four can just go elsewhere and laugh about how lame it is.

A good friend of mine had a Bachelorette party, with a stripper… It was a little disturbing, not something I would ever want to see again. Anyway, I agree with the Ladies, pick your battles. Obviously this is something that she really wants regardless of your feelings. I’d tell her one last time about your feelings and leave it at that. If she wants to continue with it, so be it, just go do your own thing.

I would say if you have 3 out of 6 not wanting it - they are totally allowed to say - "I'm pretty sure Rebecca didn't want a stripper and I will not spend my money on it"

That takes you out of the fight and makes your feelings known to all the ladies.

I just sent her a fb message and I told her, if it is something she really wants, I'm not going to start an argument over it, but I did tell her that if someone doesn't want it and doesn't want to pay, don't try to make them. Thanks for the advice. It is just frustrating that she is doing this.

Personally strippers creep me out.

If you don't want one and half your bridesmaids don't want one I think you should make it clear.

You should have fun at ur bachelorette and not feel uncomfortable because of some mostly naked guy...

Well personally, this is one battle I would pick! I think it's completely disrespectful for her to get a stripper against your wishes. My BM wants to get a stripper for me but I told her under no circumstances....she finally agreed. She realized how upset I would be if she actually did that.

^Agree with Alina. Totally not my cup of tea, and they all know it. I've made it clear no strippers and no penis decorations. I don't understand why a bachelorette party seems to equal an excuse to not be a lady. I would pick that fight.

Alina & Pan X, that is exactly how I feel. I specifically told them I don't want anything "penis" at the party. I'm not 21 or 22 anymore (I'm 26) and I have definitly grown out of that phase. I wanted to do something with a little more class, ie. wine tour, spa day...something like that. She got married in June and she lives in Colorado. About 2 weeks before her wedding, she said she wanted a stripper and no one had the money or time to throw that together, not to mention our one cousin would've been very uncomfortable. So I think this is her way of still getting her stripper. She is definitly not thinking of me by doing this.

How frustrating. Tell her to go to the strip clubs on her own time! I hope it all works out

I told my MOH no strippers, luckily she agrees...im not a big fan of strippers. We are having a Pure Romance(toy) party and then going to a few bars....

You have a right to be upset because you specifically asked for NO strippers

Jess, I've been to a pure romance party. Those are fun. I'm still waiting to see if she answers my fb message. If not, I'll see her in two weeks for the bridal shower. Maybe I'll have someone bring it up to get all the bridesmaids opinions

I also told my MOH no strippers.

This is one battle I would pick too, my 31 year old daughter teases me that she is going to get me a stripper for my BP, But I said NO WAY under no circumstances. I would be really upset if you did. Now that the BP with be in Cancun Mx, I feel a little safer that she would not try it. But I understand how you feel, a half naked sweaty stranger just doesn't do it for me. LOL!!!

Personally, I find the idea of male strippers kind of gross. I've been to a couple of b-parties with male strippers, and I still somehow feel like they're having more fun than me.

I would only pick this battle if you feel VERY strongly about it. I definitely think she can't be asking others to chip in. That's just bad manners.

If she insists on the stripper against your wishes and you feel strongly about it, decline the party. That's really all you can do.

If you don't want a stripper you don't have to deal with it. This is YOUR party. If your uncomfortable with it she should respect that.

Talk to her about it and explain to her how you feel, she should understand.

Jessica, you would think she would understand, but my sister is a very stubborn person and I can think of two seperate occasions when I said I didn't want a stripper.

Kris, she has no idea what good manners are. When she joined the Army a few years ago, it's like they wiped that part of her memory clean. She acts like a completely different person. I don't think I'm going to stomp my feet throw a fit because of a stripper, but she definitly knows that I am in no way, interested in this.

Make your sister pay for the stripper if She wants it, if she doesn't pay then no stripper!

Im pretty certain I will have at least one stripper but I think they are planning on two. I personally find them quite hilarious...I guess I have a bizarre sense of humor...but I do agree if you don't want them then thats your personal preference and if its going to stop you from enjoying your bachelorette party then that is a battle worth fightin IMO.