Those of you having a DJ...are you letting your guests select

My DJ has a policy that if guests request songs and the song doesn't seem fitting with the style or mood of the evening, then he will ask either FH, myself, or a person we have delegated for this task, like a parent. If we tell him no, no song. I really like this policy, since it's the best of both worlds.

That's nice, I like that. I was thinking about perhaps on our wedding website ask people for requests if they have any and maybe I should say that each person can only request X amount of songs.

I'm not having a DJ (we're doing it ourselves), but if we did have one... I would utilize the song request tool on the website. Then you and FH can prescreen those songs and give them to your DJ as song to add to the play list.

I am having a dj at my reception but havent even thought about it...i guess i will let them choose

Yeah I guess I will let each guest request a limited number of songs. I want my guests to enjoy themselves.

I've added the song request tool on here so that our guest can make "suggestions", but that's all they are. If it's a song, genre, etc that we don't like, then it probably won't get played. Though me and my future wife both listen to a large variety of music, so it's very likely that anything requested will get played.

We're not doing a DJ; we're doing a playlist on my iPhone. Like Shannon, we're using the song request tool on our website and we DEFINITELY consider those requests to be "suggestions." FH and I definitely enjoy a variety of music, but FMIL is dreaming if she thinks she'll be hearing any Lee Ann Rimes at our reception. :p

Our DJ has a similar policy to wowjunkie's...he said that it works out well and I trust him. I want everyone to have a great time! (as long as its appropriate)

We have a "do not play" list with our DJ (such as DMB) so guests can requst songs but I know that if it's something that I can't stand I won't hear it. We also have a list of songs we want to hear at some point during the evening. I don't want to clear every song that is played I think that would take away my enjoyment of the night.

If someone asks me to play something on the do not play list, I explain that I didn't bring that song with me. If someone asks for a song on the ask me first list, I'll check with the bride or groom. We also have a play only if requested list. In my experience, the guests will have more fun at a wedding, if I can play the songs that they request to dance to. Of course, the bride or groom's requests jump to the top of the queue.

Dan

Thanks everyone and thank you Dan!

MDLS,

I agree with most of what I've seen posted, but I think there was one aspect that nobody touched.

With most songs lasting around 3 minutes, you can play about 20 songs per hour. Over the course of a four hour wedding, there's enough time to play about 80 songs. If you have a guest list of 100 people... someone's not going to be happy if you don't play their song.

Granted, some of the songs will be duplicates, some will not be appropriate. Some might be in your "do not play" list. Let's say we still narrowed it down to 80 songs.

With music preferences being so unique and varied, I might have to play Seether and Frank Sinatra close to one another, on the same "dinner set" because that's the only place I can play them. I have a feeling one of those won't work out!

Give your DJ an absolute DO NOT PLAY list, and add a few (no more than 10, ideally 5 each for bride and groom). By the time you add all the "must play" stuff for the various activities, you won't have much time

Our DJ has a guest's suggestion page I linked to my wedding website. Most of our requests I believe will be acceptable, but who knows. It's not a huge deal for us, I guess. He knows what he want and he did my FH's sister's wedding which went off without a hitch, so I'm pretty much leaving it up to him.

I have heard of people asking for a song on the rsvp card that they would like to hear. Then you can make a list of the ones you prefer to have the DJ play.

Personally I'm not letting them choose, I will make a list myself and there will just be certain songs the DJ will know NOT to play.

I put a song request line on my RSVP's.

I just put a page on my website for my guests to request songs, thanks ladies and Dan and Carlos for your input!

I am letting my guest make requests. A wedding is about having a good time and people are not going to have a good time when they find out they can't have the song they want. I am a laid back bride and surprisingly a wedding really isn't all about you. Its also about the hundreds of guests showing up to support you. If someone wants to hear the chicken dance I don't care. Obviously it will make at least one person out there happy.

I am using the song request page on our wedding website for guests to request music for the reception but if there's a song that's inappropriate or doesn't fit the mood,it will not be played.We will have a must play list and an absolutely not list as well.I think it will be fun seeing what the guests pick!!