I’m seriously considering getting a therapist because of all the stress coming out of wedding planning. A part of me feels it’s justified, another part says it’s frivolous.
A lot of the stress is not the wedding itself per se, but what the impending wedding is uncovering about my dysfunctional family. I knew we had quite a few skeletons in the closet but I’m uncovering an entire necropolis here. When it’s just me and FH planning, it’s been actually fun and something to look forward to. But as soon as my family gets involved, it makes me want to uninvite everyone.
I had an epiphany last weekend when my mother decided to be immature and passive aggressive over me selecting hair and makeup on my own. While I found out later (from my father) she was upset because she’s been feeling left out in general, she expressed her anger by threatening to not attend and therefore by proxy ensuring no one else in my family would attend either.
My reaction was “Oh good. It’s actually less stressful if they don’t come.” Then I realized that if that was my gut reaction with very little distress, the situation is probably not good.
Anyhow, the current bandaid is for me to tell her when I’m thinking between 2-3 choices (doable imo, I just tend to be very self-reliant). But something tells me I should have been more upset with the idea of my family not coming rather than “That’s not a bad idea at all.”
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