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Lisa
Devoted June 2019

The Wedding Cake or Ice Cream?

Lisa, on January 11, 2019 at 1:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 24
So we had a tasting several months ago and we chose a four tier white cake with lemon filling (every other tier has filling) for the wedding cake. We also picked a two tier (feeds about 50) german chocolate cake. Fiance loves german chocoate, but he wasn’t really pushing for a cake. I just went in thinking we “had” to do one, so that if people don’t like white cake, they can have chocolate - and they have been at most weddings that I have been to. Design wise, its really plain - fiance isn’t really into sports designs or hobby cakes - its just plain with strawberries and a monogram.

Problem is, I did NOT want to spend a ton of money on a cake - it ended up being almost $1,000. I get it, they are delivering it, we have two cakes, its going to be hot, we are using their cake stands - but I just could not believe the price for two very simple cakes. It has very little decoration and my florist is the one putting the flowers on it, so I already feel like we are spending way too much on it, but I’ve checked with other places and prices were about the same. I am thinking of getting rid of the grooms cake to help cut cost, because I really don’t want to spend $250 on his, when he doesn’t really seem to care either (he wasn’t really familiar with grooms cakes being a thing) BUT he thinks that most people will be disappointed that we only have one flavor of cake. However, we will have an ice cream sundae bar catered later in the evening. I feel like I am being crazy and we do have a cake contract, but they do allow for changes and removals, so I’m not stuck with having to pay for it if we end up just having one cake. So would you be disappointed if you came to my wedding and didn’t get chocolate cake lol?


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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on January 11, 2019 at 6:35 PM
  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
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    I do think that cake 🍰 is an essential part of a wedding. Most people do expect dessert when they come to a wedding.
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  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
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    Chocolate 🍫 cake 🍰 isn’t essential. Just cut the groom’s cake. I think that’s an old tradition that people won’t miss.
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  • Devoted November 2019
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    I would not be disappointed. I read a lot of posts on here were it is ‘expected’ to do this and that. I feel if I am invited and all you can afford is water and a tic tac I’m honored you though enough of me to invite me. What I mean is I would be honored to celebrate your union with you and not be disappointed there was only 1 flavor of cake.
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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    You can skip the chocolate cake. 1 cake will be plenty and if people don't love the cake flavor then they can have ice cream later in the evening.

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
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    I think that just the vanilla cake is fine. People can have a slice with the lemon filling if they want some variety. If you were having a “weird” flavor, then maybe a second flavor would be necessary - but with vanilla... you definitely don’t need chocolate if you don’t want it! Plus the ice cream brings plenty of variety Smiley smile
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  • allisonrose
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I’m not having cake. 🤷‍♀️ I’m also having an ice cream sundae bar! And then for those that can’t/don’t eat ice cream I’m going to have a small dessert/popcorn table. I don’t think having a cake is necessary at all.
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  • Paige
    Savvy April 2019
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    Hi! So we were in the same boat we only have a 2 tier cake, vanilla and lemon for each tier, so we went with a bunch of different flowered mini cupcakes Basically to give some different flavor and also make our wedding cake stand out more. But honestly if you’re also having an ice cream bar I wouldn’t even worry about it! I would just go with the one cake that you both love. My FH tells me this all the time, “it’s our big day, not theirs. Stop stressing over if they like it or not” and honestly that comes in handy a lot! Just do what you both love! Congratulations!! Btw cake is gorgeous!
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  • Rschlem
    Dedicated September 2019
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    We aren’t having a cake. We will have a dessert option but unsure what yet. We never eat the cake at weddings and the last couple we’ve been to they were shoving people out the door with leftover cake. Which we then threw away because we were traveling. We are having a cheese wheel cake at our cocktail hour for the charcuterie board.
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  • Melissa
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    Like you, we will be having both cake and an ice cream sundae bar. I feel like you can cut the grooms cake or so maybe 1 tier as chocolate for him.
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  • JustKidding
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    German chocolate is so gross. Lol. While a lot of people do eat it, I wouldn't recommend it for a wedding. We didn't do a grooms cake, and it's not really needed. We had two cakes, but that was because we got our second cake free.


    Personally, I get really sad when their isn't cake at a wedding.

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  • Sam
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    Hi Lisa! I agree with many people that you could go ahead and just purchase one cake to cut the cost! I think you could even do a chocolate wedding cake if you are really set on having chocolate! Smiley cake

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I do think you should have some kind of dessert. That being said, it doesn't have to be a $1000 cake! Or even a $750 cake.

    After researching cake prices, we decided to skip that tradition altogether! I found a wonderful baker that is making a dessert bar for us instead (think of a buffet in Vegas), with a bunch of little desserts in various flavors for our guests to enjoy. My FSIL loves to bake, so she's making us a small cake for the cutting ceremony. But hardly anyone eats the cake at weddings, and most people will tell you that 60-75% of it gets thrown out at the end of the reception.

    Of course, do what works for you and FH. But don't feel like you are depriving your guests by only offering one flavor cake, or no cake at all.

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  • Lisa
    Devoted June 2019
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    Thank you all so much! I am definitely cutting the grooms cake. I once went to a wedding that had a cake, but they did not serve it to guest at all, and instead had pie - cool, except they only had 8 pies for over 100 people, so it was disappointing to not have any type of dessert at all.

    Thank you again, for not making me feel crazy for only allowing one flavor of cake lol.
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  • Sam
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    That's what we're here for! Smiley heart

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  • Mcskipper
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    I don’t care about cake— we didn’t have any. As long as you’re offering SOMETHING for dessert, I think you’re fine . One flavor of cake and ice cream sundae bar is more than sufficient. I’m not a huge cake fan, but I would be all over that ice cream sundae bar. you DO have something to offer those that aren’t into white cake. We skipped cake and only had a berry shortcake bar. Our guests were totally thrilled and no one complained,so I think you’re totally fine.
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  • Jenna
    Super October 2019
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    As another option, is there any chance you could add a second flavor into your tiered cake? You could do something like red velvet so it's more like a chocolate flavor or even just chocolate cake with white icing. You don't need more than one flavor but it's nice if it works out that way. You could two tiers of each flavor.

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  • Nique
    Devoted July 2019
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    I think one cake Is enough if your having icecream later on. You cant please everyone.
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  • Augusta
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    You may consider getting one small decorated cake for display and then having sheet cakes in the kitchen to be served to guests.
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
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    I think one flavor is fine. That is what we did for ours.

    However, if chocolate means that much to him, you could always get a sheet cake in chocolate and have it cut and served from the kitchen (not on display). Should be fairly inexpensive (from a Costco or Publix).

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  • Kristin
    Devoted June 2021
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    Dessert is necessary but since you have vanilla/lemon cake and the ice cream bar I don't think the grooms cake is needed at all!
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