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We paid for our wedding ourselves.

My fiancé and I are paying for our wedding. His grandmother offered to help with some things and so have my father. But for the most part it’ll be us two!

We paid for it ourselves

Overtime pay is paying for our wedding along with minimal help from parents. And with postponing the wedding until next year just means more OT and less stress about having enough savings. Definitely not on credit cards!

We are paying for ours. I mean you cannot depend on others. If you are lucky maybe they will pay for some piece but truthfully I have seen brides here vent that when their parents or parents in law to be had money invested they felt they had control. I think better you pay then you have more say.

I paid for my own wedding

We are paying for ours ourselves. We have had our parents buy things here and there but nothing that makes a huge dent. We have been engaged for almost two years so we have been buying things spread out and the large deposits we have put on credit cards that we can pay off gradually. We have also postponed our reception so that has spread out our time to pay things off.

We are paying for ¼, FH’s parents are paying ¼ and my parents are paying for ½. We are doing this because in my culture, EVERYONE is invited – i.e. my mum has work friends she has invited, my dad is inviting his friends, my grandmother has 1-2 tables of people she’s invited etc, so because of that, its customary that the parents contribute to the wedding.

My parents are putting in this biggest contribution because of how many guests they want to invite and because they want to help throw us a ‘big, white wedding’ with all the trims.

In saying this, it is also customary where I am from, for people to have wishing wells, where people give monetary gifts. A number of my parents’ invited guests will ‘pay their way’ (cultural thing) so we anticipate that about 20-40% of the wedding will be reimbursed by guests giving monetary gifts. Any such gifts we receive will be divided between FH and I, his parents, and my parents, to set-off against the expense of the wedding.

Although we were prepared to pay for it ourselves (we set a $25k budget), my father requested to fund it and generously wrote us a check. I'm still adding things up, but I think we came in right at budget.
If I could do it again, I'm not sure I'd accept the money - BUT, I will say it helped me not feel as horrific about all the cuts, compromises and changes that needed to happen in covid. If that was a chunk of our personal savings, it would've been such a bigger gut punch.

Our big wedding was cancelled due to C19 but we would have paid for it all ourselves - except my mother wanted to buy the flowers, which otherwise I would have skimped on.

We initially were planning on something very small and non-traditional because that was what we could afford. However, our parents offered to contribute, so the total cost was split into thirds.

We are paying the majority of it ourselves. Our parents are each providing us some, which we are very grateful for, but we went into the planning process assuming we would pay for every bit of it ourselves. We live in a pricier state and are getting married during a prime month, so it is totaling way more than we would have ever thought, plus all the little things like gifts and favors don't help, but pushing the wedding back due to COVID definitely helps us to save up a little more.

My parents offered to cover the entire wedding.

We were originally planning on paying 100% ourselves, but my future in-laws generously offered to pay for the reception meal.

We are paying for it mostly ourselves.

We are paying for ours ourselves. It is coming to about $13,000 including the weekend accommodations for bother of our moms and our three kids, our weekend accommodations and our honeymoon. Ours is coming from direct savings. We are not using any credit cards because we didn’t want to be paying for the wedding long after it’s over. It’s a small, 35ish guest list wedding within our financial means.

We paid for the majority of it while my parents paid a little of the wedding and the $2,000 bridal shower. His parents didn’t offer anything...

We paid for all of it ourselves. My mom bought my dress ($500) which was the only thing that was gifted, and was a surprise when we were at the store.

My parents and my husband's parents split the cost 50/50.

View Quoted Comment Holy smokes, what state are you in? There's such a variety of prices around. I know my $25k is insane to friends I have in rural SC, but at the same time friends in NJ/NY have spent double that. It's nuts - but your pricing sounds great to me!