That awkward invitation moment you fear would happen.

For me, the weirdest invitation thing I've experienced was with an RSVP. I seriously JUST mailed my invitations so I'm positive my cousin hasn't even recieved her invitation yet...but she texts me yesterday to ask if there will be a kids meal option. Yes. But her child will be TEN MONTHS OLD AT the wedding. Um, 10 month old babies shouldn't be eating chicken fingers and fries....

I mentioned that we'd found a venue on fb and a friend of FH (in another country!) commented something like "Should I be booking a flight soon?" Thankfully, we actually decided to semi-elope so I get an easy out from any future "where's my invite?" inquiries

I've had a few people fishing for invitations. FH and I are being really non-committal when anyone asks. When they don't get an invitation, they'll figure it out

FSIL asked FMIL if her parents were invited to the wedding, and that if they were not already on the guest list they would love to be added on....but she asked this in front of her parents and FH grandparents, crazy awkward for FMIL as she knew they were not on the guest list at the time- I mean we've met then maybe 5 times and FSIL just wants them there bc she's socially anxious, which I understand, but she knows FH's family which is a solid 50-60 people so it's not like she won't know anyone there! And she never asked us directly, bc she knows FMIL is a people pleaser. FSIL can be very opinionated and nasty, so to keep FMIL happy and prevent family tensions I ended up adding them to the list (sigh). I hate that I had to add people just to keep her happy, I mean my own son wasn't invited to her wedding, which I totally understood and respected bc she said it was adults only, only to get to the wedding and see kids from her side of the family running all over the place, only her husband's side of the family were told not to bring kids...oh well, at the end of the day it's about your love with your FH, not the invite drama right?!

I haven't spoken to my sister is 3 years. One of her best friends told me that her and her husband better be invited and that they always give a great gift. She has said this every time I have ran into her over the last 1.5 years.

That is awkward! Sorry you have to deal with that!

I have a very close friend who lives with someone I have been out with before but am not really good friends with. I sent my friend and invite, and the other girl (her roommate) took a photo of it and sent it to me and said I hope I will get mine soon! Soooo awkward! So I feel your pain girl!

I am just waiting for this to happen to me. However, I refuse to buy someone an expensive plate of food / night out if I don't talk to them that often. When I break down the cost, it is just not worth it to me. I'd rather spent that $90-$100 on myself.

I had this happen to me just the other day. A friend of mine from high school asked if one of our mutual friends was invited. Sadly the mutual friend and I used to be incredibly close, but when you move to the same city as me and you don't even tell me for almost a year, plus we still don't talk/hang out - I'm not spending the $$ for you to have a night out. Sorry - I said we were at capacity and unfortunately had to draw the line somewhere.

Oh forgot my 7 year old asked my exes parents if they are coming when I went to pick her up after visiting.... awkward as hell.

Rachel - I would just avoid posting anything on facebook - it is only likely to cause MORE questions than less.

We have a similar thing Angela - FH has 2 friends who are brothers. he has been friends with them for a million years, he calls their mother Mama and I have eaten holiday dinners at their home. They are family.

Both brothers (and the SO's) are invited, as are Mama and Dad. They also have a sister, who I never see unless it is at their family events and her husband openly hates my FH. We didn't invite the sister and BIL... I feel 0% bad over it, but it is FOR SURE a thing.

Rachel - I would just avoid posting anything on facebook - it is only likely to cause MORE questions than less.

We have a similar thing Angela - FH has 2 friends who are brothers. he has been friends with them for a million years, he calls their mother Mama and I have eaten holiday dinners at their home. They are family.

Both brothers (and the SO's) are invited, as are Mama and Dad. They also have a sister, who I never see unless it is at their family events and her husband openly hates my FH. We didn't invite the sister and BIL... I feel 0% bad over it, but it is FOR SURE a thing.

Haven't sent out any invitations and skipped save the dates. I already had this happen to me with people from my work and classmates.

Well, I am strangely glad I am not the only one to experience this. I experienced a flat out "I don't know if it is rude or not, but we'd like to come to your wedding." This was from the mother of one of my former students and softball players (that has graduated). We work in the same building, so it was a little awkward. I didn't realize people loved weddings so much. I have usually found them to be a bit of a chore to attend and go as a show of support for my friends. But, I am not the kind to get all ooey over things either. I'm not much of a party person unless it is a BBQ with chit chat and horseshoes or something.

Oh yes. I had a semi-friend not only ask for an invitation, but post his address on my Facebook wall. He was part of the friend group I had in high school, but I was never very close to him and am only inviting a few people from that group with whom I've maintained a friendship. I tried to turn it into a joke, but in the end I just had to ignore it.

We had this happen with a couple of people and we ended up inviting them (prior to sending invitations out so it wasn't like a b list) and we were so glad we did, we had a lot of fun with them at our wedding.

This is happening to me and my wedding is 9 months away.... We haven't sent out STDs or announced we have a date or venue to anyone but close friends and family. But the word has gotten out and I've already gotten I'm so excited to come to your wedding through mutual friends, and grandparents saying you have to invite this person they watched you when you were two.....lol I don't know what I'll end up doing when your situation comes up.

On the flip side, I was discussing our wedding with my friend's parents who I basically grew up with. They were meeting FH for the first time after living in Australia for a couple years, and I even mentioned how we would have GF cupcakes available since Steve (friend's dad) is gluten free. I talked to my friend a couple days later to mention I saw her parents and they met FH, and she said they talked to her and expressed their excitement about the wedding and then got super worried they were being presumptuous in assuming they were invited. They're basically family to me so there's no way they wouldn't be on my guest list, but I thought it was sweet that they still didn't assume.

Before I sent out invites, I made a Facebook post telling everyone I loved them, but because we're having a really small wedding that I wouldn't be able to invite everyone (I worded it politely). My old manager also wouldn't give many of my coworkers/friends the day off, so that also limited my guest list. Many people were understanding, especially since they knew we were throwing the wedding in 8 weeks and didn't have time to save up for a bigger venue. I did have one friend say in front of another friend "You better be inviting me!" I was planning on inviting her, but not the other friend (coworker who wouldn't have been able to get the day off anyway). That was awkward. Then she RSVPed yes and didn't show. Oh people.

I'm one of those people who doesn't care if they get invited to a wedding or not when it comes to distant relatives and acquaintances. To me, it's weird going to a wedding where I don't really know the couple.

My BFF's MIL (see thread; BFF's MIL is Horrid) did that to me when we were planning our wedding. She told my mom that she would love to host my bridal luncheon. Well, she wasn't on the guest list and my mom knew this, but she accepted the hosting, and we were stuck. No idea if she is still hosting it since now we're only having a reception as scheduled but because she told my mom she would host the luncheon, I have to invite her and possibly cause issues with BFF. Yay for being forced to be polite (knowing that you've been manipulated). Sometimes, it's not worth the hassle or drama and just invite the person. I hate manipulative people but sometimes you have to give an inch and let them think they've won so you can back further away in the future.

I had a girl I'm not so close with find out I was engaged (we tried to keep it off social media), message me, and not only invite herself, but told me "she has a plus one now." I was honestly considering inviting her... even though she hasn't been the nicest or greatest friend to me in the past. But it just struck a cord with me, and I was like, nope, no invite for her.

I felt a little guilty at first, until, I found out she visited my city four times since that message, never once hit me up to hang out.