That awkward invitation moment you fear would happen.

Just people asking me with puppy dog eyes whether the wedding would be "here," as though they were already planning to show up if it was. Nope, it's 2,900 miles away, near my family.

FMIL gets the same questions from people and the same disappointed reactions when she breaks it to them.

I had the same incident as yours happen to me but this was for a STD. I felt so embarrassed that she asked that i just gave it to her. In hindsight, i regret it. I should have just said No.

It is tough. On one hand, I am totally honored and flattered that they would want to attend, on the other, I just hear the cash register sound...LOL. cha-ching, cha-ching, cha-ching. I'm too much of a sissy with that to say, "sorry, I am glad you want to attend, but we are at capacity" and you didn't make the cut.

I am having a hard time with this too - we are the same way - it's really nice you want to to come but uh I see you once every 7 years - in the wine aisle at target

No one could guilt me into an invite in NJ, where we top off at just about 200.00.......

I'm sorry if that sound mercenary, but weddings should be about celebrating with the people you know, love and see regularly. They are not class reunions, family reunions or a time to catch up with people you haven't seen in years....

People who corner you over getting an invite know what they're doing. They know they haven't talked to you in 50-leven years and that they are on the tier of acquaintances who must use some guilt-tripping, so they do. This goes double for folks who ask for an invite in front of other people.

I haven't experienced this yet but I don't really know how many people know I am engaged. And I assume those that do know are the ones being invited.

Only Fiance has experienced this but he has no problem saying "sorry we are trying to keep the wedding small and the capacity of the venue can only hold so many people" line.

I had two best friends in high school, one I'm still really close to and asked to be a bridesmaid, the other hasn't talked to me for 3+ years and I didn't add her to the guest list. They both go to the same church and so over Christmas the one that I didn't invite talked briefly with my bridesmaid and said something like "oh, so Aubrey's getting married.. I wonder why she didn't ask me to be in it." or something. It was super awkward when my friend told me.. I feel bad even though it's literally been over 3 years!

FSIL kept asking to be in our wedding before we even got engaged. My FH and her are really close, but her and I arent.(no hate there we are just different people) We also were not planning on a bridesmaids or groomsmen. Thankfully FH put his foot down after we got engaged. He doesn't want people in the wedding besides us and my dad who walks me down the aisle. The awkward part was that she wanted to be in the wedding not because she is close to me or for FH but because she just wanted to be IN a wedding? She has never been in one and thats why she asked..

My grandfather called up my mom (my parents have contributed to the majority of the wedding) and asked if we would invite his friend. I've never met this guy and I'm sure this guy doesn't even know I exist. He told my mom that he called up our hotel that we are spending our wedding night at and asked them to upgrade us to a suite if they had it available. He offered to pay for his friend and she made it sound like he was also planning to pay for our wedding night hotel. Awkward.

I haven't had this yet. I HAVE had some people who ARE invited being scared they weren't invited. One of FH's college baseball teammates has asked SO many times if he's invited. He is, but the amount of times he's asked has made me wish he wasn't!

Just the other day, FFIL called me saying "just ran into (above mentioned teammate) and he was asking if the invites went out yet bc he hasn't gotten his." I said freaking tell him to chill they're going out next month and he will get it!

I just hate getting the famous " Oh I know I am invited to your wedding, right?" Uhhhh.... "NO" We don't talk like that so why would I invite you to my wedding. Please don't assume you are invited or that you are gonna get an invite.

FH's BM invited his entire family and a slew of his friends...we are having a destination wedding at a very small venue...I've had to explain multiple times to people why they aren't invited...it sucks.

Yep, something very similar happened to me. There are a couple of families that I grew up with and we were very close. One of them started with a friendship of the oldest and I, we are the same age. Over the years I have become very close with the mom and oldest sister and he has pretty much separated himself from our entire group of friends and his family. We came to a similar conclusion with our guest list and I realized that we hadn't spoke in almost 2 years on our own. I've seen them at a couple of family get togethers, but he doesn't return calls or text messages and I got tired of it. So, they weren't invited. Well, his new wife that I have met a total of 4 times decides to send me a book of a message asking why her husband WASN'T invited. She was very direct and felt the need to emphasize various words with ALL CAPS and give me the CHANCE to explain myself.

Needless to say, that didn't go over very well and after a heated exchange she backed off asking that I at least call her husband to let him know that I still care. I called, left a message, sent a couple of text messages (since I hate checking my voicemail), and when those went without response I sent a message through Facebook. Thinking maybe he had changed his number and I was calling a random person. He read them and never responded to any of it. Unfriended both of them. I used to love the guy, but he's not the person I grew up with anymore.

Give me the chance to explain myself on why you're not invited to my wedding.... get the hell out of here.

This just recently happened to me as well. We decided to send her an invite.

One of my BMs suggested I use my wedding guest list as a way to reconnect with college friends I haven't spoken to since I graduated. LOL, nope.

I also had an old friend who I haven't heard from in probably 3 years message me on FB shortly after we got engaged to ask about the details and ask if I was providing child care. I messaged back to say we were still undecided on a lot of the details, but we did know the guest list would be primarily family and that we wouldn't be inviting children. Fortunately, she "uninvited" herself, her boyfriend, and their child at that point and I haven't heard from her since.

I invited one of my bridesmaid's parents to our wedding also because she's a friend from back home, and I've known her parents/family for years. This friend also has 2 younger siblings, but I didn't invite the siblings. When my bridal shower invitations were sent out by my MOH, the mother asked if her sister was also invited... which of course she isn't invited to the shower because, she's not invited to the wedding! I felt so bad about it though. Luckily, this all went through my MOH, and I didn't have to deal with it!

Cousins I hadn't been in contact with in years saw me at my Gmas funeral a couple weeks ago and dad told them I was getting married when they asked about me. They later asked me is I was "at least marrying my daughters father" told them no. They just said oh and asked if I needed their address for their invite. I just said immediate family only and walked off. No need to be nice if people are going to be that insulting. I was with my ex for 5 years before having a kid, not a few weeks.

I have a few people at work that keep asking when the wedding is and offering to help, which is so nice, but I'm not even inviting them! We just can't afford to bring everyone. I thought about putting something on FB when the invitations go out explaining that we can't invite everyone we wish we could.

At my cousin's shower. My dad's relatives (his first and second cousins) heard I am getting married and asked me when the wedding is, where it is, etc. so they can put it in their calendar. One even said "make sure you invite us, you guys always forget about us..." Um....I didn't even know you existed until today lol. And to make it worse, mid conversation someone we are inviting came in between us and said she was so excited to get the Save the Date...oh boy lol.

They're "family" but that was literally the first conversation I had ever had with them. So awkward.