Thank you's for the no shows?

Hm, thanks for sharing that article. I guess I can see where that person is coming from. I think if your are writing genuinely though, this won't be a problem? This is something I'll have to think about. I'm only 1/3 of the way through the gift-giver thank you card writing so far...

@LadyMonk -- I have been Googling this, and it seems there is some conflicting information about when if it's appropriate to give a thank you for people who attended, didn't travel, did not have a special role or gift of service, and did not give a gift. Perhaps this will be a spin-off discussion topic tomorrow -- I don't want to bogart this post!

Tiffany, seriously I see three options here:

1. Your relative is nuts to think they deserve a thank you for neither attending nor giving you a gift

2. They sent you something and you didn't receive it or didn't record it

3. They attended and you didn't notice

Look into it and update us!

Thank You so much about my grandma. It was really hard for me. DH was great through the whole process and he helped me get through it.

I looked into it and I know for sure they didn't send anything because I asked. They straight out said they didn't send a gift. So there was no way for it to get lost. I really don't understand why anyone would expect a thank you if they didn't show or gift. I know it's not all about the gifts but if a gift were given then yes a thank you would be given. They didn't do either.

@MnDex-- Love it!

@Snarky-- They didn't attend the wedding. I definitely would've noticed. DH's family was there and only a handful (brothers and sisters with their families) were there so I would've noticed if any aunts, uncles or cousins made it. I even had close friends not show but still want a thank you because we're so "close."

Sorry about your grandma!

I would send them a thank you saying "thank you for saying you were attending our wedding. Us paying for your plate and than you not showing up. We were so glad that you had the courtesy of allowing us to waste our money since you couldn't pick up the phone and let us know in advance that you changed your mind and could not attend"

I'm just kidding about that, but only if we could say the things on our mind.

I wouldn't send them a thank you, if they were no shows, no gifts theres nothing to say Thank You for.

JC-- Thank You. Yes, I wish we could say the things that are on our mind. I want to say something like that but that is a lot of thank you's for nothing.