Thank you's for the no shows?

WHAT?!?! That is so insane!!! That is totally inappropriate!!

ETA: I think thank yous go to all the people that attended (even if they didn't bring a gift), and the people that RSVPed no and then sent a gift, or those that were no-shows but had a legitimate reason and sent a gift. But a no-show (even with a good reason) wouldn't get a thank you.

I think thank yous should go to those who attended, regardless of gift giving, and those who sent a gift even if they did not attend. No show+no gift=no thank you.

This is not the first post I have seen where no-shows who didn't send a gift still expected a thank you note. That just amazes me! What are you supposed to say in that card?! Thank you so much for blowing off our big day and not even bothering to send so much as a card, let alone a gift! I am curious, I really want to know what they expect that thank you note to say!

Seriously. What would you be thanking them for?

Mindbending, really. I agree with Teagan. What the hell would you say in a card like that?

The wedding was beautiful, sorry you didn't bother coming.

You can send them a thank you note; and include a bill for their seat.

Haha, thanks for what?!? "I would like to thank you for... well... I'm not sure what I'm thanking you for. Nothing really."

People have the most peculiar behaviors when it comes to weddings.

I am so sorry about your grandmother. Really can't think of a more inappropriate time to badger a person about something petty like thank you notes. I hate confrontation but can't imagine I would have been able to hold my tongue on that occasion!!

Thank you's go out to the people that came (regardless of gifts) and the ones who sent something. Pretty sure Hallmark doesn't make a "thanks for nothing" card.

I like Celia's idea!

Why should they get a thank you for not showing up?

I like Celia's idea!

Thanks for being someone i will never invite to anything again. jerk face.

Sounds like your family lacks tact all around.... asking for thank you's for nothing at a funeral. Awesome.

Sorry about your grandma.

I'd send everyone who attended or who gifted you something a thank you. What does she expect her thank you to say? "Thanks for not coming to one of the biggest days of our lives and wasting $xxx on your seat. Please send a check or cash to our home address for the cost of your seat."?

Don't waste the stamp and thank you on them.

Seriously?? Thank you's goes to people who attended or people who sent gifts that were unable to attend. Idiots!

I love celia's idea. that is perfection.

that is so rude. lol. i would have laughed at them, in their face. thank you... for what, exactly?

That's absurd. I triple agree with Celia.

I'm so sorry about your grandma! :'( It's been almost a year since my first grandmother passed away and I'm still a mess.

I agree with Celia! Send them a thank you note in the form of a bill! LOL!

Maybe I give people too much credit BUUUT maybe this is something you should look into. I don't know anybody who actually asks for thank you cards in the first place but maybe they did send something. Maybe it wasn't received?? It got lost in the mail? I don't know.

Sorry to hear about your grandma!

So weird that they asked you where their thank you card was! I def will not be sending thank you cards to people who do not attend!!