Thank you notes for attendance, but no gift?

I wouldn't. You already thanked them by throwing the reception and by thanking them in person. I think that's enough.

I did not send thank you notes to those who did not either give a gift or contribute greatly to the wedding (my aunt did my hair and helped set up the night before and morning off, not a physical gift). The only folks who had to travel far also gave gifts, so I didn't have to worry about that.

Particularly because I do think it can look like you're phishing for gifts is why I decided not to send thank yous to those who only gave a card or nothing at all. I also feel between the food, drink, favors and entertainment that I've thanked fully for their presence.

Miss Manners says no:

http://living.msn.com/life-inspired/miss-manners-advice/miss-manners-thank-you-notes-for-all-wedding-guests

Negative..

I would say generally, no.

But if it is someone with very traditional values (such as your grandmother) you might thank her for attending and say something along the lines of how special it was to have her there.

I sent out thank you cards to all of our engagement party guests, either thanking them for their gift or simply thanking them for their attendance. I dunno, I felt rude sending one out to everyone except those who didn't give gifts. I don't think anyone in my circle would think it would have been rude or pushing for gifts.

I plan to send a thank you note to everyone who attends. Since just about everyone coming has to travel, I understand if they can't afford to also get us a gift, but I want to thank them for paying for airfare/ hotel etc.

I had 2/3 guests who didn't gift, but gave a card. I too, wondered the same thing.

Since there were only a couple of people, I did send a them a note and photo of us (which was part of the thank-you note) thanking them for sharing the day with us.

I sent thank you notes with a photo to each person that attended... if they gave a gift, I thanked them for that gift in the note.. if they did not give a gift, I thanked them for spending our special day with us...

Ours was a DW in san juan, and we had guests from california, texas, new york, florida, spain, sweden . . . i absolutely sent a card to each of them thanking them for being there with us.

This is something to consider. I did this with my sons birth announcments and since we are doing a DW may do as well.

Everyone will get a announcement but for those who will be able to come and/or bring a gift, they will get a personal thank you note written on the announcement.

Thanks guys. We do have a great photo of our extended family so I think I'm going to send the relatives in the "no gift" group a note with the pic because I know they'd like it anyway, that's a great idea. The friends I'm still a bit unsure of, a note at this point just seems a bit redundant (no good pics of them unfortunately).

If I had a photo of us with that person, I sent them one of those... otherwise I picked a phot of either just us or us with the wedding party to send them... I had about 60-70 different pictures chosen and printed them in regular 4X6 size to put in with the thank you notes so the guests could easily find a frame for them if they chose and each guest got a slightly different picture