Thank you note RANT

I tell you, manners are a dying thing these days.

I like to send them out immediately after all birthday cards, christmas cards, and the few gifts we got at our engagement party.

I did not!!! want to be one of those girls! My shower was last weekend and I had all my notes in the mail by Thursday. I actually did them so quick that I have to send one of my aunt's two notes. She mailed a present so I sent her a thank you and then the next day I got a second package from her... I didn't realize she was sending multiple parts. I guess I'll be sending her another thank you.

This really bothers me, too. If someone takes the time to purchase a gift for you, take 5 minutes to write them a quick thank you. A distant cousin's shower was almost a month before mine, and the relatives of mine that also attended her shower commented on how quickly I got my thank you's out. Everyone received one within a week of the shower. It's been two month since this other shower and still no thank you's from her.

People are getting really lazy about properly thanking people. I've been hearing more people think it's OK to just say "thank you everybody" at the party instead of individually thanking each person. I can't see this since I was raised to ALWAYS say thank you

There's a whole branch of my family that sends invitations to everyone for everything...I mean, sending baby shower invites to family on the other side of the country just to get gifts, then calling to make sure the invite was received when a gift doesn't come on time. And none of them EVER send thank you notes. It's mostly my cousins and my mom is sending them money and presents all of the time and finally has just stopped because she has not once received a thank you. It's gotten so bad that my grandmother had to tell their parents how the entire family is pissed at all of them (mind you, these are people in their 20s, 30s AND 40s). Still, no thank you notes. Then they were surprised they hadn't even heard about my wedding till recently. Yeah, because you're not invited and I'm not a tacky, gift-grabby bride. It's really just terrible how people have no sense.

Ugh I think that is so rude!

I'm just paranoid that I'll send a thank-you and get the address wrong or something and then someone will think I'm a terrible person haha!

I have two cousins (one married last June and the other in March) that have never sent thank yous for their shower or wedding. Both of them had those stupid poems asking for cash. The family has talked about them behind there backs for it. I sent my shower thank yous within 2 days and all wedding thank yous were sent out 2weeks after my wedding.!

Some people spend a lot of money of gifts. Im having my MOH write down who got what during the shower and on an excel sheet (which already has each persons address on it) so that the following weekend, FH and I can write out Ty notes and mail them out.

My family always sent gifts to my younger cousins, but never got a thank you. Not even an e-mail confirmation, that it had arrived. When the older cousin was small, my Mom made sure to order gifts from F.A. O. Schwartz, so her entitled sister in law wouldn't complain. SIL commented that her daughter already had a book we sent her and they'd have to return it. That was the only confirmation that she ever received, that they had gotten a gift.

Finally my family was at my grandmother's for Thanksgiving and my Mom let it drop to GM that they never even acknowledge getting the gift. Next time she talked to my uncle, I'm sure he got an earful. He then wrote a short e-mail thanking us, when the Xmas gifts arrived.

We never sent his kids another gift, again.

It probably wasn't surprising that this aunt/uncle were the only ones who never got around to RSVPing, to my wedding.

That's horrifying. After the first non appearance of a thank you note, I'd stop sending gifts. Seriously.

I'll admit, I never finished doing them for my first marriage. Ooops. I blame it on the fact that my grandparents forced me to write them as a kid, like made me sit at the table for hours until I finished them. Meanwhile, I was hysterical because I've always hated writing. Bad bad memories. I still hate writing with a burning passion.

I just ordered my thank you cards Sunday. Thanks to this site, I have a boatload of guilt that I didn't have them sent out two weeks after the wedding. I wanted to use a pro pic on them though.

I just received thank you cards for a wedding I was in back in April. The bride sent me a thank you for her shower gift about a month ago and then FH and I received a thank you card for the wedding gift yesterday - very prompt! In addition, I received a very lovely thank you card for being a part of her wedding and sharing the experience with her. Threads like this one definitely make me appreciate a good thank you card (common courtesy, people!) and make me determined to be just as prompt with my own thank you cards when my time comes! I'm hoping to set an example for other brides-to-be in attendance at my wedding.

In the past 5 years, 8 of my cousins have been married....only one sent out thank you cards!

I attended a 60th birthday party for a co-worker's husband this weekend and I got a very nice thank you email yesterday afternoon for the gift card I purchased for him. I was pleasantly surprised! I can't remember getting a thank you card or email from anyone for any gift I purchased in the last 10 years for a birthday or wedding. Baby showers are different...I ALWAYS get a cute card from those ladies.

I am a STICKLER for thank you's and I feel terrible I haven't finished sending my shower thank you's yet! The last few weeks have just been insanely busy for me. They'll be done by this weekend though!!

I dont receive many thank you cards from people. They just text you or call.you. it would be nice to get a card. My great aunt that is 92 sent me a thank you card because I sent her a picture of my daughter. Thats necernhappened before. She is such a sweetie

I live in Florida and NO ONE SENDS thank yous. I can't tell you how many weddings I've been to and not one Thank You. The ones when I was a single mother barely making ends meet and still trying to leave $150-$200 at every wedding I attended were the worst. I literally saved to make sure I could leave money for the couple and not even a Thank You text. I sent out the first wave of my Thank yous last week and my SIL already sent me a text saying I should've saved money and just mailed the picture because no one sends Thank yous anymore...

I went to a wedding/shower last year and never received a note. How could anyone think it's ok to not thank someone for a gift? My mom had me writing thank you notes for any/everything I received when i was growing up. It's just sad.

@Snarky FH was raised the same way and he still doesn't cash checks or use the gift until he has put that thank you note in the mail.

I see this so often now! I can't believe that people really think it's OK to skip this. I get antsy if I don't send a thank you note after a week! I don't care much if it's a holiday gift (that comes every year)....but a special occasion always deserves a prompt thank you! Any kind of shower, first birthday, wedding....etc.