Thank you note question

What about "thank you for attending our wedding."

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Short simple and to the point.

I've been told that you should only send thank you's to people who gave you a gift otherwise sending a thank you to those who attended but did not bring a gift draws attention to that fact and could be seen as a gift grab.

@kalesha I don't know if it's me but that seems so short... something with a bit more body is what I am trying to get at... maybe that's just me... like if i got a note like that I'll be like... hmm ok... but yet again, I always give a gift....

@futuremrsc, see I thought everyone who attended gets one... if thats tbe case I would of sent them earlier...

Your reception is the thank you to your guests. You send a written note to thank people who gave you a gift. As pp said, by sending a note when no gift was received can be perceived as pointing that out.

Really!?! Wow!!! This is saving me soo much time!!! This is great news to me

Sending a thank you note to people who attended but didn't give a gift seems a little passive aggressive and gift grabby to me. Like PP have said, the reception thanks your guests for coming and a thank you note thanks those who gave a gift.

Good to know

Ok great! Thanks everyone!

Its funny though, I made a post a few weeks back and most people sugguest everyone who attended gets a thank you note... I hope they are reading this post...

@lynsey that's what I am saying!!!

I'm confused too Lynsey.

I would think you would still send a thank you to those who didn't bring you a gift. They still took the time to come. So if my cousin who drove 2.5 hours, and spent the night at a hotel doesn't give us a gift, I shouldn't at least mail her a thank you card that says, "thank you so much for coming and celebrating our special day with us. It means the world to us that you were there to witness our union (or whatever lol)"?

Just ignore her?

I'm so confused. Help us lol.

@gymrat THAT'S WHAT I AM SAYING!! Plus I am totally stealing your note idea!!! Bc after all that was my original question

its not about the gift, but the acknowledgement of their presence at our celebration... I think I am going to stick to my original plan and send them one, regardless if it looks "gift grabby" bc I want them to know we personally thank them for coming..

Yep, no need to send thank you notes to those who attended but did not bring gifts. I look at it this way: if friends throw an awesome party and I get to just show up and eat good food and drink booze, do I then expect a thank you note just for showing up? Nope, that would be extremely weird. I owe them a thank you for hosting that night.

I didn't sent hand written notes to those who didn't give gifts. We are considering taking a pro picture and putting thank you -the w (for more pics please go to www.ourwebsite). Mostly bc the wedding was predominantly DH's side (80%) and hes not the type to upload all the pictures from the wedding on social media. He uses social media primarily to promote his business and I don't want all his family adding me on fb just to see pictures.

@FFW that was my question.

Yes that is what I am also doing for our pics, putting the link and password on the thank you cards so they can see all the professional pics and download as many as they want for free...

That is why I want to send everyone who attended a card so they can know that we are not only thanking them, but also so they can have the link to the pics as well....

Confused... well not really... I am sending one to everyone who attended..

I am in line with a thank you for all who attend. But that is me. How they take it is up to them but to me I always think they took the time, got a dress ect I can take 5 minutes and 50 cents to say thank you. But also keep it short, trying to make it long when there isn't much to say can be awkward.

@snowqueen yup that is what I am going to do

The reception is the "thank you" for coming to the ceremony/wedding. Its a free dinner and drinks, and thats why its so important to host your guest properly. All my older family agrees that you only send "thank you" cards to gift givers and you make sure to personally tell everyone thank you for coming at the reception or receiving line,

I know some people still send all guest "thank you" cards, but i would at least wait a month or two just in case some send gifts after the wedding.

@Sarah M, haven't had my wedding yet. I was just giving a scenario. ;-)

A lot of those who I'm inviting are coming from CT.

I see what you guys are saying.

In the random question thread I asked if we "have" to walk around to each table to thank the guests. A lot of people said no. Some said they didn't at their wedding. What if you don't or can't? Still no card?

Wow!! People actually come to a wedding and not give a gift??..hmmm...that's a little odd to me. If I didn't have a gift to bring no matter how small or big, I would decline the invite and send a card for well wishes.

NJgirl...they absolutely do. Not the majority but it happens. Sometimes life happens to people and they can't. Some just don't know or have made major expenses just to come. Either way it happens