Thank you cards... no card or gift?

Gifts come in for a while after the wedding. We got married July 8 and just got a gift this week. Send thank you cards to those who gave you a gift. If you get a wedding gift on Thanksgiving then send them a thank you card afterwards.

I've sent cards/gifts a week or two after the wedding before. Maybe I'm rude idk, but I've spaced and totally forgot to buy a card ahead of time and rather than just write a check and put it in an otherwise empty envelope I wait until I get home from the wedding.

We never know the financial situation in which people find themselves. I think your post is rather shameful.

I have no expectation of a gift of any kind. I would certainly think that my guests will give me a card filled with love and good wishes. If they do not, I will still send them a thank you. Their presence is truly what matters.

I know you don't like me MrsWrs, but we invited all SO's and I have been a very good friend. I think the girls speech made that clear to all. Our reception was 80 people. Again we paid for our BP. Only close family and friends were there. We were happy they were there but yes we were disappointed.

So basically anyone who gave a card or gift gets one. Those in BP and readers regardless of no card/gift. Any one else is a no.

This is gross. Straight up.

What a shock and surprise. Who gives a fuck. You were supposed to invite people to be there because you care about them. I'm assuming you're in your 20's at least, so you should already have things you need to live as an adult. You get no say what people do with their money and you have no clue what anyone's situation is.

I highly doubt OP meant to come of greedy or grabby. I think she was trying to give detail in to her question. I get being a little surprised, just focus on how great your day was and how you were surrounded by people that love you guys. And just write thank yous to people who gave gifts or cards!

@Kristin don't forget "shocked".

Kaley, you're sweet but "little surprised?" She said she was shocked.

Also that when her parents give a generous gift they expect one in return.

So that and in the light of her dj post, it did indeed come across as greed and grabby and other things.

I personally find it strange to go to a wedding and not even give a card, I would never do that. Even when I was only 19 and in UNI and couldn't afford to give cash I clubbed together with my other friend who was in a similar boat and we got some nice crystal for the couple whose wedding we were attending. In saying all of that though, it happens that people just can't or don't give any gift. when it came to our own wedding we were only too delighted that people made such an effort to come and weren't concerned if they gave a gift or not. We had a about two or three people who didn't give anything but I still sent a thank you card to everyone and personalised it appropriately. For those who didn't give a gift I said how much we appreciated them being there and sharing in our day etc.

Everything you say sounds like. "I am awesome, so why aren't people giving me things!" No one is required to give you anything.

I agree it is frustrating, and yes, I also expect gifts from people, because that is generally what people do for weddings. But don't complain in a public forum if someone didn't get you something. It's sounds so childish and greedy.

That your parents were both shocked and had expectations based on THEIR previous gifting habits explains a lot. Apples falling from trees and whatnot.

My moh and one of my bridesmaids didn't give us a card or a gift. They did however, spend three nights in a hotel, buy airplane tickets, buy a $200 dress, chip in on amazing shower gift with the other bms. Having them there was more important to me than the damn gift. We had a few people not give gifts and that's. It why we invited them. We invited them because we wanted them there as our new life started.