Thank you cards... no card or gift?

Firstly, gifts are not the point of a wedding. I know you don't mean to, but you sound a little gift-grabby.

Secondly, we have received cards/gifts in the mail in the weeks following our wedding. People may have forgotten their cards at home and will be sending them to you.

Finally, you only need to write thank you cards to people that you received gifts from.

Wow. Just...wow

I would say only if you received a gift or nice card, I'm sorry that does sound frustrating but try not to think about it, I plan to just shake cards out and not look at how much people gave me and instead just look at the nice things people wrote and try not to think about who gave what. I know it's really tough though when you spent a lot, but you really can't expect gifts from anyone so try not to feel annoyed.

Gifts are certainly not mandatory. While bringing a gift to a wedding is usually normal protocol, it's not a requirement.

FFS, just how much did your wedding party PAY to be in your wedding? And now you want more. Gifts/cards aren't mandatory - they are a courtesy and can be given up to a year after the wedding. Be grateful that people took time out of their busy lives to spend hours with you on a weekend.

Any chance someone could have grabbed cards from your cardbox?

Definitely was wondering about this too!

Definitely was wondering about this as well!

I would write a thank you note to everyone who came, but you only need to do it for those who gave gifts. First, I would hope that you actually are thankful that they came, regardless of if they gave a gift. But if you thank them for coming and don't mention a gift, they will know you did not receive one when they may have sent it.

So much greed in this post! People came and celebrated with you! How much did your bridal party already spend just to be in your wedding? People traveled, etc. Did you properly host your wedding? Open Bar, properly catered meal?

If someone played a role in your wedding, I would say a thank you for their act would be appropriate. While custom to bring a gift, some people just don't have it and it should not be tit for tat. If that were the case, many of us could forgo a wedding and just buy all those dreamy gifts with money left over, hell, I know I could have paid cash for a new truck instead of a wedding. But I digress...thank you cards for gifts received and again for those who played a role.

We paid for our bridal party's attire, hotel accommodations, took them out to a nice dinner, and spoiled them with thank you cards and gifts they loved. So yeah not getting even a card from anyone in the BP certainly tiffed us off a bit. Considering the one family is the family of the BP who gave so little. We were brought up to give $100 a person so yes even my parents were in shock.

We had 5 hours of open bar and 1 during dinner , added extra craft beers, ciders, ice tea, the food was amazing people went up for seconds and thirds, we had a beautiful wedding. So many people told our parents that and it was the best they've been to in a while so that's why we were shocked. We took care of everything and made sure there was endless choices.

Weddings aren't gift giving events OP. Did you have showers? Why are you discussing your gifts and who gave what with your parents? That is so wrong!

I wouldn't say anything nasty, they are not obligated to get you something because they came to your wedding. Nor do you have any right to judge someone's "wealth".

BUT. After our friends wedding, they were surprised to find that one of groomsman and his wife didn't get them a gift. But it turned out that they had just forgotten it and ended up getting them a REALLY expensive knife set. Soooo.....

We were also pretty surprised by some of the people that didn't give anything, but just let it go. It isn't a requirement, although I would be mortified to attend a wedding without giving the couple something.

So much shocking.

Do you personally handle each of these couples finances?

There are many people that from the outside appear as though they are financially well but due to their keeping up with the Kardashian's lifestyle they cannot afford to give you that gift.

I'm confused as to whether you understand why you had that fabulous reception. Was it so you can celebrate the Love and happiness you and DH have found with those nearest and dearest? If so, the physical items bring don't really matter.

I do think it is curious when someone does not give a gift at a Wedding. I would never consider not doing so even if I spent a lot to be in it or travel to it. Saying this, I have a sister who does not give gifts. I think it's weird. You don't have to send thank your to anyone who did not give you a gift. The exception would be readers in your Wedding.

I seriously doubt your parents were "in shock", and what are you even doing complaining to your parents about wedding gifts?

If someone gives you a gift, say thank you. If they don't give you a gift, thank them for coming anyway.

It doesn't matter if you had craft beers; that still doesn't entitle you to anything.

And my guess would be the people who did the reading took the act of reading as your gift. They performed the service instead of something material, and you should send them a thank you for it.