Thank You Card Question

"I agree with everything written (although, I can be more flexible about the timing, a month or two can be reasonable to me)...."

I don't like to keep people waiting and wondering if their gift arrived safely. I like them to know right away that I appreciate their generosity and thoughtfulness.

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I agree with you 100%, and we -- daughter and SIL included -- try to always be very timely. (I think she had their thank yous out within two weeks of the wedding, and she felt bad it took that long.... ) But, if it takes a little longer to get a gracious, handwritten thank-you, I'm okay with a short delay, certainly over no thank-you or a generic pre-printed one.

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I got one of these once too, but to add insult to injury, they made us address our own envelope at the shower, "to save the new mom time!" (her baby wasn't due/born for a couple months after that...). Um, did you want me to just thank myself, too? Because, God forbid, we don't want to waste your time.... (Around the same time I received a very sweet handwritten thank-you note for a gift from a neighbor whose twins were born at 29 weeks and were still in the NICU at the time she sent the note -- and she had a 4 year old at home. Somehow, despite all that, she "found the time.") I would do anything for that neighbor. For the woman who didn't have time to address my preprinted thank-you note? I declined invitations to the gender reveal & shower for her second child. I'm petty like that....

View Quoted Comment I think that’s a great idea. I’d no issue with it being a picture or having a generic message on the front or anything, just if there was NOTHING personalized about it at all, it just seems like, somehow less appreciative? Like honestly I was so grateful for all our gifts that I WANTED to write a personal note to everyone. Not that any of them were super in depth.... some of the ones I wrote were very generic “thank you for the generous gift! We’re so glad you were there to celebrate with us!” Etc, but I still took the time to hand write each one.

Idk it just seems more grateful to me I guess, to spend a couple minutes devoted to thanking each individual person?

I think it’s more polite to write a handwritten note. Pre-worded cards seem a bit lazy.

I think it’s fine. We went to 2 weddings in April. Both we have $200 as a gift. The first wedding we got s photo postcard with a generic thank you. But we were good with that because they acknowledged we gave them something.

I personally hate cards so I think they are useless and a waste of trees. I read a card and put it in the recycle. FH's side of the family is notorious for sending greeting cards for every occasion including our dog's birthday. Which I guess the sentiment is nice but I really don't care what a card says because they are typically always generic with just a have a happy thanksgiving/christmas/birthday.

I thought you were supposed to hand write all thank you notes in their entirety? I don't think I have gotten one with a pre-printed message, they were all by hand. I guess I don't see it hurting to write like one more sentence to say thank you for the specific gift/money to use for ___. I think I'll just hand write them all and plug in the different gift or whatever. But there are only so many excuses/reasons to say what you are going to use money for, gifts are easier to describe. I have only kept a few handwritten cards over the years but wedding thank you cards are not one of them.

Did you attend the bridal shower for the wedding? If so, did you get a personalized thank you for that? I have attended weddings and gotten no thank you card. I was always under the impression that the thank you cards are really more done for the bridal shower. Our photographer includes thank you post cards and that is what we will send to all wedding guest and hand written thank you cards for the shower.

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I totally agree!!! The picture thank you's are great but even a few words is the polite thing to do for a thank you.

Any formal gift (wrapped, etc., etc.) deserves a formal (hand-written, specific, personal) thank-you note.

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I'm more flexible with time too! I'd say 3 months or later for me, I start to wonder if they are going to send them. Prior to that I'm totally fine with.

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I totally agree!

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I don't mind addressing my own envelope, I've seen it at a lot of bridal showers and baby showers. I didn't personally do it at mine but the 3 seconds of filling out my address never phases me, especially since we have a bunch of younger friends constantly moving to new apartments or rentals.

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Right, I totally agree! Yeah I think it would be weird to not include a note at all.

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I think handwritten are a lot more personal for sure!

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I do agree, a card is better than none at all. We are going to hand write ours, personally, I was just seeing what other brides thought about the pre printed ones!

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That is a different opinion from other brides commenting for sure! We typically hang cards in our kitchen for a few months so we look at them longer, especially if they have pictures, but I do understand! I hadn't received a pre printed one ever before, this was the first one, that's why I was asking to see what other brides thought!

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No, we are in CO and the wedding was in NY. I didn't know the bride or groom, my fiance new the groom (not the bride) from the military. So this was the only card we got for the wedding. We always get thank you cards for weddings if we bring a gift (which we always do). A few we haven't and it always bothered me but I never said anything. I sent handwritten ones for my shower & bachelorette & any early wedding gifts already.

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Yeah I agree too! Glad to see other women feel the same way I did when we opened it.

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I agree! I think any gift in general!