Thank You Card Question

I think it's ok. I've been to weddings where I didn't even get a thank you card aha. So I think it's nice to get it at all. I bought blank ones and wrote in each by hand but not gonna lie I did pretty much use the same type of languageand sentences for each :x BUT I handwrote all of them so that was certainly a lot aha.

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Cute! Yeah I agree, it depends on each group!

I'm not into the picture, generic thank you cards. Frankly, I think the sooner you send them the better. I sent mine within a week. I got lots of comments on the speed and content. If it's not important to you to make them personal, no big deal. People will be happy to receive a thank you nonetheless.

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Right, I think ANY thank you card is better than none at all. But none isn't an option for us hahahaha so I'm leaning towards a pre printed one with a note & picture, then a small area for a personal note!

View Quoted Comment To me it personalizes each person that gives you a gift.

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It's definitely a pain. But for me it was the quickest and cheapest route to get the thank you's out. When I get my pro pics back, I do want to send out a Christmas card announcement maybe.

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We didn't have time to write them or anything within a week (or two) since we were on our honeymoon. It's been three weeks (tomorrow) and our photographer is almost done with our pictures. I think I'll hold out for the pictures for sure, but I'll order and get them out ASAP after that.

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That's a great idea! After all the cards this year, we will probably skip Christmas cards hahaha!

View Quoted Comment That's great! I waited like 45 days for pictures. Which was still a good turnaround time given the contract. Congrats!

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Our contract was 6 weeks max, but she emailed me and told me she is close which is super exciting!

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At least say "Thank you for coming from so far to be with us". It doesn't take much to make it personal, but I don't think this is something most people are taught anymore.

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Makes sense! Yeah I think we will pre-print ones with a short thank you & picture, then leave a space on the back for a more personal message.

So I feel like I'm in the same boat as you! On the one hand, FH is right that it is definitely better than not sending anything--but I personally LOVE reading a handwritten note. Seeing that the couple took the time to write their thoughts is a very personal and meaningful thing for me. It feels like a genuine thank you, rather than a stock send all. So while I would rather get generic than nothing, I enjoy the handwritten significantly more so. I know that is considered old fashioned now, but I consider myself a traditionalist in most things. Also I think the picture can be fine, it's more about the handwritten message to me!

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I appreciate a handwritten note, and I know my family will be disappointed if I don't hand write them! My fiance's family wouldn't care, any note would be fine and they probably wouldn't be mad if we didn't send one at all. We are going to do a picture & handwritten note!

Personally, I think thank-yous with a only generic printed message are incredibly tacky. For me, the excuse of, "we're just so busy," doesn't make it better. I'm guessing pretty much every wedding guest is "busy," but they made time to shop/send a gift or write a check, and/or attend the wedding. To me, the very least the couple can do is handwrite a brief, personal thank you note. Each note can take less than 5 minutes; write a couple a day and the task in done in a couple of weeks. It's likely you will have guests for whom this matters and they WILL remember. I've been married 32+ years, and still have people occasionally mention that they remember we got our thank-yous in the mail before we left for our honeymoon a week after the wedding. Good manners make a lasting impression on people.

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I'm not sure if I would go as far as tacky, but I would have appreciated a handwritten note. We left for our honeymoon a day later, so we didn't have time to send thank you notes and some people sent gifts after the wedding so we would have missed them. They will get them within 2 months of our wedding, because we are waiting on the pro pictures to put on the front, but I've decided I will hand write them.

Following the wedding we are probably going to do a pre-printed picture & verbiage thank you card. I will probably personalize the tank you a bit. But honestly I hate handwriting anything. I am super critical about my handwriting & it takes me at least 2x - 3x thank you cards trials before I send the card. It’s a waste of paper.

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That makes sense too! I think we are going to do a combination of printed picture/note and personal handwritten note on each card.

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I agree. No generic cards. I took time from my day, shopped and attended. You can write something in a card. It does not take that long, we had ours done in a week. We sat down and did them in three evenings. It just seems impersonal to me.

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I agree! That's how I felt when we received it. I do like the pictures on the card, so we will print them but I found one with a blank back with lines for a note so I'm going to do those then hand write them!