Thank You Card Dilemma

Any one who sent a gift should get a thank you. You may be over thinking this. I would love to receive a card like yours even if I didn't get to attend. The pictures of you and hubby are a great personalized touch!
Maybe add a note: We can't wait to celebrate with you in the future.

Like pp said send a thank you card to every gift giver for sure. Most gift givers like to be acknowledged. For instance, I purchased two sets of thank you cards, a set that matched my invitations and then a generic set but similar to the flair of my invitations and hand wrote a personal note in each based on attendance and or a gift. Because we wanted to express our gratitude immediately, we started our thank you cards the wedding night (we were too hyped to sleep...or consumate), so we tackled the money gifts (checks&cash to bank deposit) right away as we planned to leave the very next day for our honeymoon. The remaining ty cards (for wrapped presents) were written while my hubby drove us to our honeymoon spot. With that being said I'm the type of person that likes to thank ppl right away. I have a niece that I attended and was a part of her wedding and gave a generous gift for her wedding two years ago and have yet to receive a Ty card and another generous gift for her baby shower a few months ago and still no Ty card. Does it irk me yes but I chalk it up that some ppl are just taught differently.

Receiving gifts is part of the wedding in the sense that you wouod not have received the gifts if you werent getting married. So, yeah, they were a part of your wedding. Add a personal note like "we love the xxxx you gave us!". Especially if they did not get to attend, they will love the oic cards!

Everyone who gave a gift should receive a card, and it should always be handwritten.

I think whatever card you send is fine. Whether you choose to buy plain cards or you go ahead and use the photo cards is far less important than ensuring everyone who gave a gift gets a handwritten thank you. Your guests won't mind either way, I'm certain.

Just add “in spirit “ to your hand written note part at the end

We plan to send anyone who sent a gift a thank you.

Definitely send a card, especially because they sent gifts even though they couldn't attend.

To me, even though the card says "thank you for being a part of our wedding" and I couldn't attend, I'd still consider it a genuine gesture, because they took the time to buy a gift and send it and added to the overall love and support you felt for your big day.

Don't overthink it, I'd just send them out. Make sure to include a personalized, handwritten note on all of them. It's good etiquette and it will make them feel valued and appreciated.

Take your photo and make a few cards at Staples without the generic saying on the inside. That way, they get a photo and a thank you, and you can stress less

Send the printed card. They may not be present on your big day but they sent a wedding gift to congratulate you as a couple. I think that still constitutes as being a part in their own way.

The only reason I would say not to do that and to go a different route would be if you start to run low on thank you cards.

Get another package of cards at any stationery store. Of course you thank anyone who gave your a gift.

We are getting postcards to send to those people who are "special" on our list like the mom of our flower girl, who isn't coming to the wedding. We are thinking of getting ones that are from our honeymoon because it's different and fun! You can buy packs on amazon for cheap. We also thought getting thank you' s printed out at our local Walgreens because it's cheap and easy, and they have cardstock ones that you can get sent to your house.

Are you including a handwritten note in addition to the pre-printed message? IMO, thank you cards should be sent to everyone that gave you a gift and it should be handwritten. Not a fan of ones that have a printed message inside, seems impersonal and effortless.

Well that's why you don't do a generic, pre-printed message in a card. It should always be handwritten and tailored to the specific gift giver.

What you need to do now is either order more cards with no message (which you should really do for everyone) for those who sent a gift but didn't attend, or just buy a small package of generic thank you cards from any stationery store and send them out.

But you absolutely, 100% must send a card to anyone who gave a gift, whether they attended or not.

I would buy some generic thank you cards and write a personal message. 1 - because they sent a gift I feel like you should send a personal message 2 - because I think it would be weird to send someone who didn't attend a card that said "thank you for being part of our wedding" when they didn't attend.

If you send a generic one size fits all TY card, please put a handwritten note inside each one. I am pretty chill about things but a generic "thanks for sharing in our day!" with names preprinted is not acceptable.

I think you should definitely send them a pre-printed card, just be sure to address the gift you received and also put that they were in your thoughts on your wedding day. Also agree with PP that you can say you look forward to celebrating with them in the future!

Thank you for all the responses. I had assumed we'd be able to add our own little message and signature to the pre-printed card, but unfortunately I can't write anything on the card itself because it's a hard glossy photo paper and even sharpie smudges, I tried. Also the printed message we chose is quite large and takes up the whole inside of the card. The only possibility is to add an insert which I'm not sure I love the idea of, or buy a plain thank you card at a stationary store for those who did not attend but sent a gift, or send as is with no explanation. I had no intention of not sending a thank you to these people, I just wasn't sure how to go about it.

And I know not everyone's a fan of pre-printed non-handwritten cards, I didn't think I would be either but after getting a few after weddings we attended over the last couple years, I realized I really don't care about small stuff like that. Thought I would but when I got the cards, it just didn't bother me. Plus I don't see how it's much different than handwriting a generic 'thank you for being part of our special day' in every card, which is what most of my friends who were recently married did.

I think I'm leaning towards just sending the card as is. They know they weren't at the wedding and will understand we're thanking for them for thinking of us and sending a gift anyway.

They were there in spirit. What else would you do with thank you cards with your wedding picture on them? I would also write a personal msg (left side of the card) to everyone.

I think I would just send a preprinted card... Just as it is...