Temporary GIRLFRIENDS/BOYFRIENDS NOT INVITED.......

Thats totally acceptable. Go with the over 1 yr. rule.

Its your wedding have who you want there! I had conversations with the majority of my friends on my guest list and told them that most people are not getting plus 1s unless they are in a committed relationship. In some cases, with childhood friends, I requested just their presence. Most people will understand, I explained that we are trying to keep a low budget and should things change i'd let them know. No one really freaked out

I agree, I have 4 brothers and they have new girlfriends every 6 months..so I've made it clear that they won't have a plus 1.

If someone refers to someone as their boyfriend/girlfriend, it's not up to you to decide if their relationship is committed enough or not. You should invite SOs if you value the person you are inviting. If you don't value them enough to invite their SO, don't be surprised if they decline. I would not have attended a wedding if my husband was not invited when we were dating. We were serious after a month.

Now, if you invite FH's friend and his girlfriend today, and he breaks up with her, he does not get to replace her with a new girlfriend. That's why you should address the invites by name "John Doe and Jane Smith."

I did the same thing. The only made an exception for 2 people that were single and I knew they wouldn't know ANYONE else at the wedding.

I def agree

We went with the one year or living together rule. If, by the time the wedding rolls around, anyone has a circumstance change, I'll consider it for them, separately.

This came in real handy when one of my groomsmen cheated on his gf of 3 years (also a close friend of mine). They broke up, she kicked him out, and now he's dating the girl he cheated with. Luckily, I have the one year rule to tell him she can't come, cuz I don't want all three of them in the same room.

Stephanie, there is a difference between a husband and a boyfriend of four months..

If they are going to know other people there, then I think it's fine to not extend a plus one to them. But, if they aren't going to know anyone besides the bride and groom, then they should get a plus one. There's nothing worse then going to a wedding and knowing no one, and not even being able to bring a date.

I agree with Laura...so awk

Yes, that's why I said "when we were dating."

We're doing the "have they been dating 6+ months" rule. Our venue is small - it has a capacity of 200 - no more - and that's chock full of people (140-160 is the comfortable range). We're explaining to people why they did not get a plus one, and why their kids aren't invited.

Luckily, we're not really running into a problem. We expect perhaps one might have an issue, but the guy in question is dating on of FH's ex-wife's best friend - so she will definitely not be invited because she might cause drama.

The way I see it the people invited to our wedding are people who are friends and family to us, so I expect they wont have a problem feeling lonely. The Wedding ceremony is going to be less than a half hour and after dinner its right into dancing. If they are concerned that they're boyfriend/girlfriend that we don't know isn't invited and they're going to decline because they don't have that person there to eat dinner with, they can save me the meal cost. If they're family we will consider if they aren't already on the list.

We are kind of doing that. Being as someone who has been in a relationship for 6 years we are not limiting it to just married/engaged. If they live together then the other person is invited. If it's a serious relationship (they have been dating for a while I like the 6 months above) then they can come. Some people just do better with a person they are close to. I know at my sisters wedding (I wasn't raised by my real mom but she was) I was not close to pretty much anyone. The only person I knew was my mom and step dad (who I wasn't close to) and her grandma (who I also wasn't close to) so I asked to bring a friend. Which I was glad for because the only person who even talked to us that night was my sisters grandma. I hear things like this often. Just because people may know people doesn't mean they want to socialize with them. So we took that into account too. Those who are truly single didn't get a plus one.

Thanks you all!!

I think it's just a case by case basis. FH's brother used to have a new girl every other month, but he's been dating this one girl for a few months now and they seem rather serious...I finally addressed the invitation to both of them, rather than Nick +1 lol. I think though, if you've got a serious guest count restriction and have to cut corners, people will completely understand if they can't bring a date. Especially if said date has never met the bride or groom.

Unless you don't know ANYONE else at the wedding besides bride/groom, I see absolutely no reason why someone would decline a wedding invitation simply because it didn't include their significant other.

I had moved in with my now-fiance before we'd been dating a year. The 1-year rule is bs. If someone is in a relationship, it's not your call to say if it's serious enough. It's okay to cut couples and not give single guests +1s. It's rude to decide whose relationships are "serious enough."

Stephanie, that's why people use the living together rule. Should someone who has been with their bf one week expect to be able to bring him? You got to put a limit somewhere.

I am totally with Stephanie on this one. How do you decide whose relationship are good enough? If you are inviting someone to a party to celebrate your relationship, you need to recognize theirs. Plus ones and inviting a couple are completely different things. Plus ones are extended to truly single guests.

The one year rule is BS. My sister got engaged after being with someone for 4 months. They hadn't announced their engagement yet, and my cousin didn't invite my sister's FI to their wedding. It was rude, and she felt ashamed two weeks later when she learned that they were engaged.

Relationships move at different speeds. It's not up to you to decide how important someone is to someone else.

It all comes down to budget, and the line has to be drawn somewhere.

Don't invite the people who have a revolving door of girlfriends/boyfriends.

Look at your guest list and see how many people that affects, and go from there.