Tell me not to invite coworkers

For the sake of keeping office peace I wouldn't invite any of them (except your best friend). Because if you invite only those you kind of like, then you may hurt feelings. If you invite them all then you have people you don't like at the wedding.

I've been working for my company for almost 7 years and the owner considers me part of the "family" and I'm still not inviting any of them. My boss even flat out asked me "I'll be invited, right?"...what do you say to that?! But I don't like my boss and I hate my job so why would I want anything that reminds me of work at the most important day of my life (to-date)? I decided from the beginning not to invite any of them. My FH works in a small office and is only inviting the one co-worker he is good friends with and we've actually hung out with him outside of the office. I think you should only invite your BF and call it a day.

DON'T DO IT!!!! I'm having regrets of inviting my boss and his wife now that I want to start job hunting as soon as the wedding is over. I'm only waiting till the wedding is over because I invited them.

My FH is the VP of his company (also the owner's son) and he told me that, due to office politics and formalities, you invite the bosses to be nice. They can always say no. Then you invite anyone that you are close to, but you do it in private so nobody really knows who got an invitation and who didn't. I've tried to talk him out of it because I think it is a bit awkward, but he said that he gets invitations to his employee's weddings all the time. It's kind of an acknowledgement that they have helped you. So I'll be inviting the owner of my company and our CFO who hired me, then two co-workers that I'm pretty close to. I'll give the save-the-dates only to the co-workers because it has our registry and I don't want my bosses thinking I'm fishing for gifts. If anyone somehow finds out and asks, I'll say I only invited the people who actually hired me and the two that have done me many favors in the past as a thank you. So as long as you have a good reason for inviting who you are inviting, I don't see a problem with inviting a select few co-workers.

I just didn't want to come across as rude because I know they will be expecting an invitation and I have a feeling they will buy a present with or without an invitation. Boy that sounds bad. I wouldn't give an invitation to get a present but is it rude to know they will buy a present but not send an invitation? For the record I am NOT expecting a gift from them but I know my boss and I will get a gift card of some kind I'm sure. He might have no personality but he loves giving gift cards.

Do not do it...I have had to get onto my FH about this numerous times. He insists on inviting his whole flipping office. I do not want a bunch of rowdy, hard-drinking construction workers at my wedding. I have been to their company parties before and it is like you walked into a frat house. Some of the older guys I am fine with - their wives help tone them down but the young bucks - oh man. I am all about people having a good time, but they can be offensive and vulgar and I do not want others to leave because of their behavior. After I told FH my concern he was like "ohhh, yea, maybe I should have not said anything". So far we are inviting 15 of his coworkers and their spouses....

All of you inviting coworkers - we've seen before from previous posts that it's a terrible idea to hand out save the dates/invitations at work. If you want to invite coworkers, get those folks addresses and mail them. When stuff gets handed out at work - even if you think it is privately - it often causes extra hurt feelings to the folks not invited as it's MUCH easier for them to see the STD/invite. Mail is your friend!

Don't invite coworkers! At my last job, a coworker invited our boss to his wedding and left the company a year later. He wished he hadn't bothered. Another coworker invited her boss and got fired the week after her wedding.

If you don't want to invite them, don't. Sure you've been there a long time, but it's just a job. Ten years from now you may be working somewhere else and wish you hadn't invited people who don't mean anything to you. Even if the numbers aren't an issue, you can still use it as an excuse. Nothing wrong with wanting to keep it to close friends and family.

I think you just have to make a decision for yourself based on the people and your love for your job. If you don't see yourself being there for a long time and you don't like a lot of people there, then I can see the reason for not inviting any co-workers. My FH's sister got married last year and her boss came and after dinner he thanked her mother for raising a wonderful person and left and let her enjoy the rest of her wedding. However, the family's company's employees were invited and stayed the whole time and there were no problems and it was an awesome wedding. I like all of my co-workers and expect to stay here unless I unexpectedly have to move out of town, but for budget reasons we can't invite the whole company. My FH is inviting the same people invited to his sister's wedding. It really should be up to you because not everyone has horror stories from inviting co-workers to their wedding.

I try really hard to keep my personal life personal. And I think once you introduce your "work life" to any aspect of your personal life, it is very hard (if not impossible) to take a step back. So, no matter how much you get along with bosses/co-workers, how long you've been there, etc, in general I think its entirely appropriate to NOT extend an invitation and keep a boundary between personal and professional life.

I wish I hadn't! I invited 2 both RSVP with their families and neither showed up. The one I sit 3 feet away from 8 hours a day. Didn't speak to me until 2 days ago because he says he felt bad about not going.

The only reason he's now speaking to me, is because I finally had enough of the tension and ask him WTH was going on? Why was he avoiding talking to me.?

IMO...its not worth the possible drama and conflict it may cause if for some reason the person cannot come but feels obligated because youd did invite them. Yes you spend time with these people at work but a work relationship is different then outside of work no matter how you put it.

We only have 15 employees at my company. So feel very much like I would have to invite them all if I invited one. So I'm going for none. And just simply stated that we had decided to have family and close friend only. I don't feel like anyone is offended this way.

Personally, I would just invite them. If guest count isn't an issue and some of them might not come anyways, it would be a nice gesture to invite them

I have worked in offices where there was drama about who was/was not invited to a colleague's wedding.

In addition, my side of the wedding already dwarfs FH's and he doesn't like any of his co-workers. So, I decided not to invite any of my colleagues or clients. I let them know up front that our wedding was a small, out-of-town affair with only friends and family, so that no feelings were hurt. So far, that's worked out quite well.

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The bad thing about inviting coworkers is that VERY OFTEN they will RSVP (they feel obligated) - then will NOT show up, which in turn will cause a problem for you at WORK.

For whatever reason coworkers love to RSVP then say the following: "Oh, well I decided it was too late, I had to go to the grocery, little Timmy had a ball game" and will not show up.

I am NOT inviting my boss! He's boring and I don't like him so I don't really want to run the risk of him actually saying YES to the RSVP. I am also shamelessly inviting my two best work friends. It's my wedding and I don't really care about the office politics. Now granted your office is a bit smaller, but my opinion is to do what you want.