Teen Bride/Planning

Congrats on your engagement and no judgement or age discrimination here! I think you and your fiancé should sit down with a checklist, a budget list (wedding wire has great ones!), and both mothers and divvy up who wants to do what. If your mother doesn't want his mothers help, let her be the one to tell his mom. After all, she wants to be in charge, right? You and your fiancé can be there to just make sure they stay with ideas that you like and to run interference in case one offends the other. Good luck!

If someone was willing to pay for me to have professional services, I'd take them up on it (but that's just me) and find another way for my friends and family to help out with the wedding. You can always add ushers and guestbook attendants and all sorts of other helper-outers to include these people. And if you have a pro DJ-ing instead of a friend, maybe that friend will have a little more time to relax and enjoy the wedding. Of course, if your heart is set on having the friend do it, explain to mom that you really appreciate her offer and her advice, but that you want to have the friend do it for sentimental reasons, and because it would mean a lot to you and your FI. Maybe if mom understands that you're making this decision because it's what you want, not because you're cutting costs, she'll feel better about it.

Congrats and don't worry I'm a teen bride to, I'm 18 right now and will be 19 when we get married. For wedding planning wise do ALOT of reseach! I haven't actually booked anything yet(waiting til its officially a year til the wedding) but I'm always on the internet looking at stuff and asking for prices. I swear I'm always emailing and calling people LOL! As for living situation set a budget, were actually gonna be moving to AZ cause we love it there and have very decent priced rentals

As for beginning your lives as newlyweds, my advise is definitely some you don't want. But I HIGHLY recommend going to your parents for advise on how to get an apt, what you can afford etc. My fiancé and I are 28 yrs old, I own a home and he has a doctorate, and we still go to our parents for advise on big things like our first time buying a car, managing credit cards and healthcare decisions. They raised you to be confident enough to make a big life decision like marriage at an early age, so I bet they're pretty smart and can be of a lot of help if you ask for it from them!

Hi Marissa,

Welcome to WW and congrats on your engagement and plans to go to college! Please change your avatar so that we can recognize you more easily.

Unless both moms get along EXTREMELY well, I suggest you and your FH (future husband) take over the planning. Take the moms' input, but if they plan for you, that's going to be a nightmare. You will have a war by the time everything is said and done.

Also, whatever you do, don't have family and friends work for your wedding. As you will see if you stick around, having friends as vendors is a disaster in most cases. So although I usually say leave your mom out of it, this time your mom is absolutely right.

Once again welcome and happy planning!

My advice for renting is to find a place where you know some tennants or can read reviews. We've had tons of crappy landlords who never fix anything, come around bothering you all the time, even one who called in the middle of the night every time it rained to ask if we would go unclog the drainage grate in the sorority house across the street, yuk!! The landlord we have now is GREAT, always there when you need him, never there when you don't. We accidentally broke a window, and he was far more concerned about glass in my arm than the window itself, which is far more than I could have said for any previous landlord. Having someone who cares makes a HUGE difference.

Hey,

Goodluck! I would agree with your mom. Most importantly though make this decision with your FH.

As far as apartment searching grab your local apartment guide or go to rent.com. or apartment finder. Sometimes they will be running specials which can be pretty helpful. As far as the actual apartment goes...go look at the apartment complex several times. Do a drive by around the building at different times throughout the day. Pay attention to the vibe. Look for a well lit parking lot. Do everything in your power to get an apartment on the 2nd floor (they tend to have less break ins) and towards the front of the complex near the office. Most of the time in ordinary,average complexes the apartments at the front tend to be nicer,better maintained and quieter. Also see the actual apartment you will be moving into. Dont expect it to look as nice as the model unit they may show you.

Can you tell I lived on my own in apartments for awhile

Welcome to WW! Definitely use both sets of parents as resources for both the wedding and after. No matter how grown you are you will always be their little girl, and they will want to help guide you in the right direction. Congrats on getting engaged!

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Thank you all for the advice! I will definitely change my picture also.

Just stopping in to welcome you to the WeddingWire Community @Marissa!

I just turned 18 in May and am getting married on the 29th. Look to family members because I found that many are willing to pay for part of the wedding as a wedding present (i.e. dj, make-up, hair, jewelry, cake...) Also I found that it is much cheaper (in all aspects) to get married on a Friday rather than a Saturday. We are doing our wedding on a Friday and the ceremony starts at 6 and leads into our reception (we are getting married where we are having our ceremony). Also DIY stuff helps with the budget tremendously-heck out entire wedding is from Pintrest. Just some thoughts.